Sunday, April 18, 2010

Question & Answer

Below are some questions I have received in recent months, but have not yet answered. I am sure I have left some out without meaning to, so if you have asked me a question in the past and you are still waiting for an answer, or you have a new one, please leave me a comment below.


By MamaVee: I'm new to reading your blog, so forgive me if you have posted about this before, I just haven't come across it. How do you handle and/or explain to your children the racist terms and derogetory depiction of Native Americans in The Little House books? I read the series a few years ago, before I was a parent and wondered how people would talk to their kids about it, and now that I'm a mom, I'm still wondering!

We have currently only finished the first three books in the series, and just started "On the Shores of Silver Lake". So far, only one of the books ("Little House on the Prairie") took place in Indian Territory, and I'm guessing you are referring to Ma repeatedly stating that she "just doesn't like Indians" and that Laura was going to look like one if she kept leaving her sunbonnet off. Honestly, I don't find that too offensive. I mean, I don't even think our kids are picking up on that, especially since Pa is always defending the Indians, and Laura (the author) is obviously fascinated by the Indians. I think it's easy for us today to look down on the settlers' apparent racism, but the Ingalls family was almost killed by the Indians for having built their cabin a few miles into Indian Territory mistakenly, when they believed it was land that had been bought by the American government. I think the books offer a very authentic glimpse into early pioneer life and into the lives of those who started this country.


By Mary Grace: love reading your blog and learning about your family. your children are beautiful...wondering how you feel about adoption? Have you heard of this legal case? or I am an adoptive mom and love my son more than anything. However, I couldn't live with myself if I had done the things this couple has been accused of doing in order to gain the child. I think the bio-mom should be applauded for not giving up.

I think adoption is a great option, and definitely Biblical, as God says that when we get saved we are adopted into God's family. But I am very wary of adopting children who are not orphans, as it often leads into cases such as the one you mentioned above. I think our current Child Protective Services are horribly out of control, taking children from parents and forcibly adopting them out to keep themselves in a job. I have also read that a lot of international adoption of orphans is not really a case of orphans at all, but agencies overseas paying poor parents to surrender their children so the agency can collect the adoption fees.

By Karen: Hi Zsuzsa, You had mentioned before that you get a lot of books from the library for homeschooling etc. I was wondering if you pre-read these? If not, how do you go about knowing which books would be okay for them to read? I assumed I would pre-read or at least read along with them buy with such large quantities is this possible? Or more so with just fiction?

Good question. 99% of the books we get are non-fiction or picture books for young children. The only fiction we have gotten are old classics such as the Little House books, Heidi, Robin Hood, Robinson Crusoe, etc. Most of the books we get are the ones suggested in our curriculum, Galloping the Globe, which is a Christian curriculum and the publishers only included suggestions they found wholesome and in line with the Bible. When I take a book off the shelf, I quickly leaf through it and scan for anything offensive. The two oldest boys are the only ones who can read the books independently, and they are old enough to know if they came across a wrong teaching, but so far, that issue has never even arisen.


By Alice: I've been meaning to ask you for ages but I have been wondering where your husband gets his ideas for his sermons. I should probably search around and find his blog and ask him myself but I tend to be a bit strapped for time most days

He reads his Bible/listens to it for hours a day. He also has well over 100 chapters of the Bible memorized (about 1/10 of the whole Bible), and he has to quote some of these chapters every day to keep from forgetting them. He gets ideas as he goes over these scriptures daily, and notices common themes in unrelated chapters. He also gets ideas just from everyday conversations and encounters.


By Anonymous: Hi I had a ? I read before you don't wear make up. Do you think its wrong or do you just not like it? Just wondering.

By Anonymous: I was just wondering why your think 2 peice swimwear is wrong (which it is) but your boys dont wear shirts? I also have noticed you are agaist make up just wondering why on that to?

I never wear make-up. I don't think that it is wrong to wear make-up if it is only intended to restore a natural look, such as cover up a scar or blemish, although I don't think it is healthy to apply such chemicals to already compromised skin. But I do think that wearing make-up that is supposed to be seductive and accentuating eyes, lips etc. is not only hideous but also sinful. The Bible makes a few references to makeup, and they are all negative. The only woman recorded as having worn make-up was Jezebel, the ultimate picture of a wicked and rebellious witch who died by being thrown out of a window and eaten by dogs. Ezekiel speaks metaphorically about the nation of Israel acting like a promiscuous woman, part of which involved her painting her face. The Bible calls this woman lewd, an adulteress, and a harlot (see Ezekiel 23, verse 40 and on). Not even one hundred years ago, no decent woman would have ever been caught with makeup on her face. Besides the moral question, I think make-up is hideous and some extreme forms make women look like weird animals or insects.

As for the bare chest on boys: the Bible never defines a chest/breasts as nakedness. Nakedness is from the loins to the thighs, i.e. from the waistline to the knees, for both men and women. A bare-chested woman by that definition would be immodest (also a sin) because men find a woman's breasts sexually attractive, but not as nude. I don't think anyone finds a young boy's or even a man's chest attractive in that way, so I find nothing wrong with them going swimming in just trunks. It's not like they go to the store in swim clothes. My husband never gets around people outside our immediate family without a shirt on.


By Chris: Hi and congrats on your new addition to your family.I know the bible cleary tells us how we as women are suppose to act,dress and live.It also tells us how our hair should be.Do you think that it's okay for women to wear wigs or scarves if they have hair loss or have short hair?

Yes, absolutely.


By Anonymous: I live in Mesa. May I ask where you buy your free range meats and that dairy farm on the outskirts of town is where? Thank you!

We get our milk here, and our beef here. The difference in taste, quality, and health benefits is amazing. The ranch recently started carrying pork, too, and we are getting our first batch this month, something I am very excited about as I have been looking everywhere for natural pork at a price we could afford.

By Anonymous: What do you think about an ectopic pregnancy where the dr. is pressurring you to take methotrexate to terminate the pregnancy before rupturing your fallopian tube. I have had 2 ectopics the first one treated with metho, and the 2nd I didn't know about ruptured my tube. I've been told that I have a high chance to experience another ectopic, and have wondered what I will do. I have felt guilty about taking the metho... The dr told me it was the only way, and I've since thought otherwise. Just wondering what your opinion was.

I am sorry to hear about your two previous pregnancy losses. This is a difficult situation, and one that I hope to never have to experience personally. I know that no ectopic pregnancy is viable, or can be transferred to the womb for a chance to survive there, so the baby will die in any case, or may never have developed from the start. I know that this condition could in extreme cases lead to the death of the mother, and in most cases her tube would rupture and thus be lost. Personally, I would not fault someone if they took the medication rather than risking their own life for a child who has zero chance of survival, but personally, I am not sure if I would rather take my chances because I can see myself forever feeling guilty about it otherwise. I think I would just pray for the baby to pass quickly and with minimal damage on its own, while staying under very close medical supervision. But honestly, I think this is a question of personal conviction. In any case, you should not be feeling guilty. Your baby, if there was actually one developing, rather than something like a blighted ovum, had no chance of survival..


By Christy: I think I have read that you use homeopathic remedies, and if you do I would be interested to hear about them. I have heard from a Christian friend that the medicine has something to do with 'energy' and she is not convinced that Christians should use homeopathic rememdies. I'm wondering how much research you have done on it and if you have anything to add.

I used homeopathic remedies some years ago, but have not done so after wondering the same thing as the question you are asking. For lack of time to look into the subject, I now treat our family with herbs and other natural remedies. Sorry I have no better information to give you, maybe one of my readers has some input?


By Anonymous: Zsuzsanna, this isn't related to this post but just wanted to ask a quick question. On the side bar under your most popular posts I've been clicking to read them and I'm getting an error message that they no longer exist. Are they gone or is something up with my computer firewall? I would really like to read some of those. Thanks

The links went dead after changes to my website, and I never took the time to update them again. They are all working now. You can also type a search word/phrase into the search box of the top left of the blog.


By Mindy: I have an honest question. What exactly do you mean when you say that public schools in Germany make public education in the US look like Sunday School? I understand your metaphor, but I'd be interested in hearing some examples of the differences between American public schools and German public schools, especially what makes them so much more difficult for children and young adults than American public schools. God Bless you and yours!

For one, German public schools are compulsory, and this is strictly enforced to the point of taking custody from parents who will not comply and incarcerating them. The teachings are, of course, pretty much against anything set forth in the Bible. I had never even heard of anyone who did not believe in evolution, including "religious education" teachers. Some of the faulty evidence for proving evolution, such as the horse evolution or that babies in the womb go through a fast version of evolution from looking like the embryo of a fish, amphibian, reptile, and then human, has long been yanked from most American textbooks after having been proven as fabricated, but in Germany, I was taught all of these. I had and knew of many, many teachers who were pedophiles and preyed on the children, which was usually ignored if the student was a teenager and thus considered "consenting". Age of consent in Germany is 14, I believe. The dirtiest of "teen" magazines, advocating every dirty and perverted act, were freely read and circulated by all. Adult supervision was minimal to non-existent. Smoking is permitted for those age 16 and up, on school grounds in a special smoker's corner, though it is often tolerated in younger students.


By Kat: This comment is off topic but I can't figure out how to email you-pregnancy brain, i guess. Would you mind if I made a post suggestion? I noticed in an old entry you don't circumcise. I'm considering that right now and am getting a surprising amount of resistance from my family. Would you mind posting about care and why, etc? If you get a chance, that is. By Stellar: Okay: What are your views on circumcision? My mom is a Christian midwife, but she is very much so against it and is even active in groups against it, and the reason why she said she's not a big fan of the Duggar's is because they circumcise their boys. By Missina: Forgive me if I'm mistaken, but I once read on your blog that you do not circumcise your sons. I am currently looking into the issue, and especially after watching a video of a baby actually being circ'd, my heart is like, "NOOO NEVER! Not to my babies!!" We have yet to be blessed with pregnancy, but I would like to formulate an opinion for the day we might have a boy. I would really be interested in hearing your perspective, whether you are for or against, and why. I know you don't know who I am, but my husband and I have been following your blog for about a year now, and you are always well spoken and respected by us with your opinions. Thanks :)

We do not have our children circumcised. There is no Biblical mandate for us to do so; rather, the Bible makes it clear that it was a symbolic OT law that never extended to the Gentiles. Historically, circumcising all males in America became common during World War II, when mostly Jewish doctors stayed behind from the war and advocated for it. In Europe, this is not common practice. The American trend toward circumcision was further fueled by a fascination for Judaism and Zionism, both of which are contrary to true Bible doctrine. The Jewish religion teaches works salvation just like ever other false religion, and I have no desire to emulate their customs any more than those of Catholics, Muslims, or other false teachers.

My husband preached a sermon on this issue, you can listen to it here.

Another question is the motive behind doing this entirely unnecessary surgery. Of course, as always, the love of money is never far off. Many, if not most hospitals sell the tissue for various uses, such as making cosmetics, stem cell research/cloning/animal-human-hybrids, and other perverted uses.

The most common argument given for circumcision is that it makes the son look "like his father". This is a stupid argument if I ever heard one. Our sons all have blond hair, whereas my husband's is brown. Yet, we have never considered dying their hair brown just to make them look more alike. By that argument, nobody would have been circumcised to begin with, and it has to stop somewhere. It's not like father and son should be exposing themselves to each other and comparing body parts, anyway.


By Zetsubou: What are your kids going to do when they get into the workforce and have to interact with people who live different lifestyles than what you and your husband have taught them to live? They haven't been to school (either public or private), so how will they know how to deal with other people, especially other people who aren't the same religion/do not share the same values as them? In the workforce, people come in contact with others of all different values and beliefs, and a boss isn't going to care what your morals are- you're there to do your job. How do you intend to prepare your children for that reality?

Hopefully, they will be just like their Dad, who follows the convictions we teach them and is very successful in business, which I believe to be a direct result of God blessing us for the stands we take. At 28, he owns a nice home, has started and runs a church and a business, and is the father of 5, all with no government assistance at all, and on a single income. Our children are exposed to lots of people with other beliefs and values, but they view all these in light of the hundreds and thousands of hours of Bible reading/teaching and preaching they have heard from birth. Ultimately, our responsibility is only to teach them the right (i.e. Bible) way, it is their responsibility to chose to follow it themselves.

By Hilary/Eden Evangeline: I would love to hear about the time from your marriage to the starting of the church. I know that's not really a question but I am very curious. I would also love to hear about your growth - I also changed drastically after salvation. I love your writing style and your willingness to share in a public blog setting. I know it must be hard sometimes to read the absurd comments people leave in response to your posts. Your boldness is an encouragement to me. :)

When we were first married, we lived in Sacramento, CA where my husband had grown up his entire life. He started working in the alarm business; his experience in working with his Dad growing up (an electrician) helped him get the job and succeed in the field. We attended an independent, fundamental church in Sacramento, CA where he had been going for several years. I was a new Christian and learned so much there. I first got pregnant in December, four months after we got married, but almost immediately miscarried. I got pregnant again the next month, which is our oldest, Solomon.

We lived in California for the first three years on our marriage. We didn't have much money, but we loved our baby son, and then were thrilled to have another baby boy in February of 2003, Isaac. My husband had told me all along that he wanted to be a pastor or a missionary, and decided to go to Bible college in Indiana. We arrived there on the exact day of our third wedding anniversary, in August 2003. At the time, Solomon was not quite 2 years old, and Isaac was 6 months old. We lived there until December of 2005, and had another baby (John) in December of 2004. In those 2 1/2 years, my husband had almost completely finished his 4-year degree in pastoral theology, but after much thought, prayer, and consulting with our old pastor back in California my husband decided not to finish his degree because the doctrine and standards at the college were deteriorating so quickly. While in college, my husband continued working in the fire/security alarm business, and when we moved to Arizona that company kept him on to expand their business here in the Western States. We started the church in Tempe on Christmas Day of 2005.


By Andrea: I have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, which causes insulin resistance. Doctors try to make me think if I'm not constantly in stirrups getting embarrassing internal exams, I am doomed. But, seeing as you do a lot of nutritional/medical research, what can you tell me about what you think I should be doing as a woman? Do you know of any good natural methods for reducing the effects of insulin resistance? I maintain a low calorie, low sugar (but NO substitute sugars!) diet and get daily exercise. However, I know my body is still out of whack, because of the weight gain I struggle with, lack of a consistent menstrual cycle and persistent infertility that has lasted nearly five years. Your advice would be so much appreciated. I hate doctors telling me how it is and shoving medications down my throat, while constantly throwing those embarrassing exams my way. Are pelvic exams/pap smears even necessary?

Unfortunately, I do not have any tips for dealing with PCOS or insulin resistance beyond what you have already mentioned, partly because I have never faced either and therefore have not studied into it. My recommendation would be to consult with a knowledgeable naturopath or midwife about your specific case.

As for pelvic exams and pap smears, this depends on your personal life style. The pre-cancerous cells that pap smears check for are caused by a very common venereal disease, but in monogamous couples who are not carriers this would not be an issue. Then again, I have known of several married women who contracted it from their husband, who was committing adultery behind their back. Sadly, we live in such a sick society. I guess this is a personal decision. I do a pap smear every two or three pregnancies because it really makes the midwives feel better to know that I am well and cared for and not just "blindly" trusting my husband (which I am glad I am). I am sure that doctors do more pelvic exams than they need to, for the same reason why a dentist will fill a cavity that really wasn't one, or why a mechanic may want to perform unnecessary repairs - it means easy revenue. I do not know enough about your personal circumstances to give you any advice in this area.


By Patricia: I'm curious as to how you and your husband will handle dating and what (if any) influence you'll have over your children finding a husband or wife. Will you use 'courting' as some families do, or will they be free to go out in life and meet another person without supervision (for lack of a better word), as you and your husband did? Will your girls pledge their purity until marriage and wear a 'promise' or 'purity' rings that have become popular in the US? I know they are (absolutely precious and utterly adorable) babes in arms now, but the teen years loom and with it the question of behaviour with the opposite gender. I'd be interested in your opinion on such matters if you ever find the time to express your beliefs regarding the subject, I know you must be very busy! I enjoy reading your blog, it's an interesting mix and definitely makes the reader think in regards to the topics you choose--and of course the sweet pictures of your children. Thanks so much and God bless

Well, our kids are still years away from having to deal with this question, so I can't say I have it all figured out exactly. I do not like the current "courtship" movement, which to me seems is all about the suitor trying to impress his father-in-law, rather than his future bride. I think that young people should be free to chose whomever they want to marry. I also think that this decision should be guided by Biblical principles on how to chose a good spouse, with the most important criteria being that the person they are considering is also a Christian. I see our role as parents more as gatekeepers: we have a certain threshold of who our kids will be allowed to socialize with, but within that parameter, the decision is theirs, and hopefully by then we will have succeeded in teaching them wise principles. Our oldest is currently copying the book of Proverbs in cursive, and has finished writing out the first seven chapters. It is amazing what things he has told me, without being prompted, of what he has learned about life, and finding a spouse (it talks about that subject a lot). I think promise rings may be a nice token and reminder for young girls that they are valued and appreciated as a person, and should not give themselves away to the whim of those who would take advantage of them.

By Lucy: Just wondering, do you teach your kids about other religions? How would they react if they met someone of the muslim faith for example?

By Vicky: Just a follow up
question about the religious studies option: If you don't mind studying them, and find they are all very similar, Would you ever be comfortable if one of your children decided to follow one other than Christianity?

Yes, we do teach them. They learn about it in the context of learning about other cultures and countries, and when the preaching deals with in what way other religions disagree with the Bible. No, I would not at all be comfortable if the grew up to be anything but Christians, as Jesus said: "I am the truth, the way, and the life: No man cometh to the Father but by me." So far, all of our children that are old enough to make this decision for themselves have believed and put their faith in the clear teaching of the gospel, and I make it my goal that this will be the case with all of our children.


By Stellar: I was wondering what you thought of vegetarianism. Not animal-welfare vegetarianism, but more so for health reasonings. My mother had high blood pressure and high cholesterol before she was pregnant with me, and she had two choices; a natural remedy of vegetarianism, or a lot of prescription medication. She is still a vegetarian today for health reasons, and so am I. Just want to know what you think about it :)

I think that people who are vegetarians for moral reasons or because they think the Bible commands us to do so are wrong. I think people who are vegetarians because they believe it is a healthier lifestyle are also wrong and mislead. BUT I do think that people with certain health problems may benefit from a number of restricted diets to help relieve their digestive system while dealing with this problem. In your Mom's case, I'm wondering if switching to a whole foods diet would have had the same effect (i.e. pastured, non-hormone treated meats, raw dairy, etc.), as high blood pressure and cholesterol are typical results of our society's degenerated diet.


By Susan: I'd like to know which country you consider to be well-run country and why?

You know, I still consider the United States to be a great country, in spite of our many problems. Unfortunately, the Bible tells us that in the end times, there will be a push for one-world, all-controlling government, and I am afraid we are headed there. The closer we get to it, the harder it will be to find anyplace that still maintains freedom. As my husband's attorney put it, the legal system in the United States is the second worst in the world, and the worst legal system is everywhere else. At least, we do still have a Constitution and certain inalienable rights on paper, even if they are often violated in reality or can only be pushed through by those who have the money to take their case to court. No other countries guarantee the amount of freedoms that the Bill of Rights gives our citizens. It is sad to see how many would casually give up these freedoms and strive to be like other countries who treat their citizens much worse.

If I could live anytime, anyplace in history, I would say that I probably would have loved to live in the United States anytime between its founding and the beginning of the 20th century.


By Muliebrity: I would like to know how a woman can avoid abortion while staying off government assistance. I am pro-life, but am not sure how I can push my pro-life stance, if I am not willing to support mothers who choose to have their babies. I would guess the best solution would be for those women not to be in that situation, but it does not seem realistic. Would love to know your stance!

People by and large have been pro-life throughout most of history, yet there were no government programs to help women in such situations. It used to be that if you got yourself in such a bad position by acting stupid, you had to live with the consequences of such actions. Government programs are a major contributing factor to the rise of promiscuity and single parenthood. It used to be that the women had to pay for their actions by maybe having to skip a meal or humble themselves and ask for help from family and others, which served as a deterrent to other young girls. Now, people on welfare expect to live a lifestyle similar to that of people who work hard and are frugal, and many do, thanks to limitless credit spending and government handouts. All else aside, I thing it is wrong to steal from someone else, even in the guise of chivalry and noble intentions of helping others. According to the Bible, the role of government is the punishment of evildoers, and that's about the extent of it.


By Anonymous: Must wean my 13 month old for medical reasons. I have always nursed him to sleep, and have never let him "cry it out before" and do not want to start. I think it is going to be very hard. Tips?

Well, sadly, it will be tough, although how tough will depend on the temperament of your baby. It also depends on how long you have to wean him - a couple of weeks or pretty much cold turkey - and how much he currently nurses.

The easiest feedings to drop first are usually the daytime feedings, as most kids will be distracted by "real" food and happy to fill up on that. The harder feedings to phase out are the ones upon first waking, upon falling asleep, and during the night. If you have a couple of weeks, something that has worked for me is using a phrase such as "You're all done!" every time the child is done nursing. Once I feel that they are making the association, I then start saying it when I want them to latch off after shortening a feeding, and then latching them off while distracting them. If they fuss, I pat them and talk to them soothingly, and usually that would do the trick as the baby is sleepy during these harder-to-eliminate feedings. I start shortening the nursing time, until at the end I say "You're all done!" seconds after them latching on, and by then they usually latch off on their own, roll over, and go to sleep without noticing that they never even really nursed. In no time, they stop even waking for that.

Of course, this may not work for other kids at all, this is just my personal experience. I think it might also be helpful to have your husband distract the baby and/or try to feed him in another room. Good luck!


By Margitta: Do you teach your children german? And if you do, how fluent do they speak it? We are a Norwegian/german family with 5 kids (ages 10years to 10month).

I do, but not nearly as much as I should. The boys can understand when I tell them everyday stuff in German pretty good, such as "Shut the door" or "Take this to your room". They never say anything in German though, and I have been trying to work extra hard in incorporating more German in their education. Really, it's my fault for not being consistent. My husband is fluent in both German and Norwegian, and has been to both countries.


By Anonymous: What type of food do you eat on a weekly basis?

Pretty standard fare. We mostly eat typical American meals, Mexican, German, and Hungarian meals. There is a German bakery and a German butcher in town who not only keep me supplied with German cooking magazines, but also with all the ingredients needed to make them. We do try to emphasize healthy, whole-foods cooking with lots of fresh produce. I make most everything from scratch. I love baking more than cooking, but it kills my waistline so I try to stay away from it or make stuff for people at church instead. My favorite cuisine hands-down for eating out is Indian.

By the same Anonymous: Are you going to continue having kids until menopause?

Yes, Lord willing. It may seem strange and unusual in our culture, but it is what women have only ever done for thousands of years. Even 50 years ago, this question would not even have arisen. We don't have kids because we feel that we "have to", to us, they are the greatest blessing in life and the more, the merrier.


By Kathie: 1. What are your best remedies for "all day sickness"? (I refuse to call it "morning sickness" because it's not). I have been surviving mostly on candied ginger, mashed potatoes, and saltine crackers. My husband has been changing most of the stinky diapers because I literally throw up at the smell of them.

I posted about that here. I also have another post on that coming up later this week. Hope you feel better soon!


Also by Kathie: 2. How do you combat the tiredness? When I was pregnant with our first, being tired was no big deal, I just went to bed early. Now that we have an active toddler to chase around and no older kids to help me, I can't exactly just nap whenever I feel like it. Help??

I don't, because I can't. There are two types of chores: those that will stack up if they are left neglected, and those that won't. For example, your family always needs to eat and have clean clothes, and if you stop doing those chores you will only face a bigger mountain later on. But a floor or a bathroom can get dirty and stay that way, and still be put back in order by a single, one-time effort no matter how many cleanings you skipped. So put those things on the back burner, and ask someone to help you with chores if they are volunteering their help. Try to take a nap every single day when your toddler is sleeping; it will give you more energy and help you get done more than if you had stayed up.


By Michele: I have a question for you. What are your discipline methods? I don't have any children yet, but I want at least 6 and that has always been something that i've wondered about, how do you deal with discipline in a big family. I love your blog by the way. I hope your morning sickness goes away soon and you have a wonderful pregnancy.

Well, this will have to wait for a post on its own, but it is definitely in line with the discipline put forth in the Bible, mainly the book of Proverbs.


  1. Thank you for answering my question :)

  2. Re: Pregnancy with toddlers

    I've had very hard pregnancies with no one around to help me. Even during my first pregnancy, I was caring for my 2 year old nephew and my last pregnancy caring for my bed-ridden mother, so I know what exhaustion feels like : )

    I have napped with my toddler children. I called it Jungle Gym Mommy. Find a safe place that can be closed off. A living room with baby gates or even the child's room (which is already baby-proofed.) Have a comfy place to lay down (couch or blow up mattress) and let the toddler play next to you, around you, on top of you as you lightly nap. New toys or those you only bring out during this time keep their attention. Ones with lots of pieces seem to be best--play food, matchbox cars, blocks, etc.

    Mine have never wandered off, they want to be next to mommy, rolling their cars (or galloping their ponies) on mommy is a big hit. I always enjoyed the extra snuggle time with them at this age, it seemed after the new baby came the whole dynamic of the family changed and the toddler outgrew that precious snuggle stage : (

  3. Regarding discipline, you mention that your discipline is "in line with Proverbs". I'm assuming you mean that you discipline with The Rod?

    Since your husband is obviously well versed in the Bible and many pastors I know use the hebrew/greek translations to better understand the Bible, how do you feel about gentle discipline as outlined in this article:

    Please understand that I mean no disrespect to you or your family. I don't agree with some things you say, but I do respect your opinion. I have heard MANY people say that they are choosing to discipline "Biblically" yet personally I feel that the Bible does NOT state that The Rod is the only way to discipline so I would like to ask you what you think.

  4. CA in SA: Your link uses the garbage NIV and the "original Hebrew" to basically say the same thing Satan did in Genesis 3: "Yea, hath God said?"

    This coming from a site which also glorifies Glen Beck, Rush Limbaugh, and Sarah Palin.

    No thanks, I'll stick to what the Bible says not to what twisted doctrine the Protestants are puking out these days.

  5. Cheers, Zsuzsanna. I appreciate you taking the time to answer my question. And I have to say that it's impressive that your family gets no government assistance even though only your husband works full time and you've got five kids with another one on the way. Honestly, I don't know how you do it. I make enough to support a family of four, but I live alone and save 70% of my salary so that I can take care of myself when I'm an old lady. You and your husband support 7 people on one regular income, which is pretty amazing, to be honest.

    Sorry for rambling. I guess I was just struck by that fact.

  6. This was fun to read Zsuzsa, I knew your stance on mostly everything and this was great. You are full of wisdom and the Bible backs you on everything you say.


  7. It's funny what you said about make-up.100 years ago no respectable women would wear a jean skirt and a t-shirt everyday. A respectable man would always be in a suite and tie. I don't think its wrong for people today to wear jeans and t-shirts, styles just change. I know what you mean by to much make-up like eye shadow ect. It does look like they are tring to get men to look at them.But nothing is wrong with light make-up. I brake out bad and would look horriable without make-up.

  8. Heelo,I have a question.DO you believe homeschooling is meant for every child? or do you have to be led to do that? I would have loved to homeschool since my kids were little ,but my 2 oldest are 12 and 13 ,and they attend a verygood school,as far as curriculum goes,their website is,can you tell me what you think about this?It is privately funded so it is not a public school.ANd I also feel that if I were to withdraw them ,that I would not be able to teach them like their school teachers..thank you

  9. I have a question. I had my tubes tied four years ago during a c-section with my second set of twins. My husband and I are raising 5 little girls. I wasn't a Christian or even married when I had my tubes tied. I have HORRIBLE carpal tunnel during my pregnancies and decided I never wanted to get pregnant again.

    Now, I'm so very sad about this decision. The cheapest I can find reversal surgery is in Tennessee with a female pro-life Christian Dr. It would cost us about $6000, we live on one small income and don't have this money. I am so discouraged. I feel extreme conviction to have this surgery done almost to the point of being depressed about not being able to conceive again. I've prayed for God to heal the tubes, but I have a feeling he wants me to save and have the surgery. My husband is not so sure he wants more children, but I want to fix myself and leave it up to God.

    What do you think about reversing a tubal ligation? If it were your situation, would you save as long as you can to have it reversed.

  10. How fun! Really these are my favorite types of posts. I even forgot I asked you a question! That was so long ago, but you still answered it. :)

    Thanks Zsuzsanna!


  11. I hate to inform you, but history has NOT been pro-life. Pick up a real history book. Babies were aborted through herbs or violence, born babies were left out to die or sold into prostitution and slavery. This isn't even 'historical' as the very same thing goes on n the world today.

  12. Thanks for answering my question. I always enjoy these posts! I'm looking forward to your discipline post. I'm also curious to know what age you start doing different punishments/corrections etc.
    I had been reading someone saying you should slap a *young* babies hand when they reach for something they shouldn't be touching. This seems a little overboard for someone too young to understand. This person says it's the same as training a dog- which also doesn't sit well with me.

  13. CA in SA, TX,

    the anonymous comment responding to your question was not from me. While I do agree with what the comment said, I would have expressed it differently, as I do think your question was a sincere one. I will address your point when I do blog about discipline, but for now it will have to wait.

    I have since received a handful more comments going back and forth between your question, the response of anonymous, and then responses to that. Just wanted to let you know that I will not be posting any of these comments as I have no desire to turn this into some sort of ongoing vendetta.


  14. I read what you said about circumcision. By itself, i wouldn't think much of it since you seem equally critical of all non-Christians, but then i read your assertion that Zionism played a role in convincing goys to circumcise their children. And your other post discusses that 9-11 was fabricated by the American Gov't, combined with a fervent sympathy for Iraqis, which seems incongruous for you since you seem so conservative.

    With this in mind, how do you feel about Israel? You seem sympathetic to Iraqis, is it because they are Arabs and you oppose Israel? You don't seem to like Zionism very much. How do you feel about the state of Israel? Do the morally ambiguous military actions of Israel and/or the Palestinian Authority bother you in any particular way?

  15. Just wondering, as I remember the Border Patrol video but didn't think much of it at the time, you have made some comments about a police state.... however, I noticed you have not commented on SB 1070 at all. I am not asking necessarily about the immigrants, but about the increased role ALL police officers will soon have (to charge you with a crime, detain you and fine you - basically deem you guilty and you must prove your innocence). Do you at all worry that you might get singled out as a possible illegal (they have no real parameters or qualifications for "illegal," it is just the officer's judgment as far the text of the bill goes)?

    I don't doubt there are some amazing police officers out there (in fact, I have known some). But when I moved to the Phoenix area last year, I was shocked by all the police misconduct cases in the Arizona Republic. For some reason, there seems to be a disproportionately high number of police who enjoy abusing their power. SB 1070 could easily be carried out faithfully and without prejudice up north (or even by our fellow southern neighbors west of us), but in Arizona, I don't believe it can or will be done without incurring massive lawsuits from injustices like your husband's.

  16. I'm a little late, but I'd be interested to hear your thoughts about depression - particularly Christian people who struggle in this area.

  17. I was wondering what your take on dancing is. I personally don't dance seeing as its just flailing around and wiggling things that need not be wiggled but I was wondering how you and your family felt about dancing and why.


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