tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post4657751599092298732..comments2024-03-05T19:29:18.578-07:00Comments on ARE THEY ALL YOURS?!??: My two cents on babies and schedulingZsuzsannahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03062136377263894876noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-17550939799136201592008-11-08T06:55:00.000-07:002008-11-08T06:55:00.000-07:00You & I are different people in many ways, but...You & I are different people in many ways, but I wanted to thank you for reaffirming that the way I parent my son is right... I always knew scheduling had to be based on his development - not my wants.Mirandahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15291201144481428349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-59222839749580949302008-11-06T15:38:00.000-07:002008-11-06T15:38:00.000-07:00I came across your blog a few months ago and I rea...I came across your blog a few months ago and I really enjoy reading your thoughts on things! Since these comments seem to be on the topic of children, I have a question for you as well. At what point does one stop getting pregnant because of previous c-sections. I've had three already (I attempted a VBAC but was not successful) and I am not a candidate for any type of home or hospital vaginal delivery. My dr. said everything looked fine after my last c-sec and gave us the go ahead for a fourth. But when do we stop? When she says so? Do you recommend a second opinion at that point? I know of a lady online that's had 10 c-secs so I know it's possible, but obviously, I don't want to die during birth either...lol. Any thoughts on this? Neither hubby or I believe in sterilization but I'm thinking at some point, it could be a health issue, ya know? Thanks for any insight you have! Keep up the good work! And congrats on that precious new baby!<br><br>Kris<br><br>p.s. This is hubby's account if you're wondering why I'm signed as Kevin. haha!Kevinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15032244397946578251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-46726443783482375292008-11-06T10:55:00.000-07:002008-11-06T10:55:00.000-07:00Do you think you all will ever turn the playroom t...Do you think you all will ever turn the playroom to a bedroom for the girls? Does Rebecca ever sleep in the kids' bedroom? I am sure that you love the current house because you all have a swimming pool. Maybe you all could get some men from church who may have carpenting skills to build extra rooms to the house. I know you all would have to pay them of course, but they would probably charge less than most people.Mistyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10283409144963014817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-12943720773416390792008-11-05T23:51:00.000-07:002008-11-05T23:51:00.000-07:00Misty,Good questions. The reason why I reject NFP ...Misty,<br><br>Good questions. The reason why I reject NFP is because it requires about 4-6 days of abstinence each month, which the Bible speaks against:<br><br>1Co 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. <br><br>So, as a rule of thumb, I take it you should not practice abstinence for longer than you would be willing to fast. <br><br>I would say that maybe there are times when it would make sense to try not to get pregnant, such as after a still birth or a miscarriage, to give the body time to heal. The Bible does say to abstain for certain lengths of time after having a baby, so those time periods could apply in such a situation.<br><br>I oppose sterilization for any reason. Genetical disorders that would make it impossible for a couple to have children are very rare, and I believe that God is in control of that.<br><br>Our current house has 4 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms. One bedroom is our bedroom, one the kids' bedroom, one room is their play room, and one room is our school room. The house is not huge, but it's big enough for us right now. In the future, we could either add on or buy something bigger, but I won't start thinking about that until I have to. I hate moving and anything related to it!ZSUZSANNAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03062136377263894876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-9744324927014272302008-11-05T23:30:00.000-07:002008-11-05T23:30:00.000-07:00I am curious. How do you feel about Natural Family...I am curious. How do you feel about Natural Family Planning? Let's say that you feel like you need to wait for 3 years before your 6th child? I do understand that you don't believe in birth control pills. Some of my friends use NFP and they have not had children in years.<br><br>I am curious about another thing. You have never addressed it before. What if a couple is told that it would be unwise for them to have children due to bad genes and that one of them needs to have surgery such as tubal ligation or vasectomy? How do you feel about permanent sterlization. Tubal ligations and vasectomies don't cause chemical abortions at all. I am not talking about you. I just would love to hear your belief on this in general. <br><br>How big is your house? Do you think you all will ever move to a bigger house when you have more children?Mistyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10283409144963014817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-56454477083929851832008-11-05T22:38:00.000-07:002008-11-05T22:38:00.000-07:00Hope,I am guessing that you do not have any childr...Hope,<br><br>I am guessing that you do not have any children? I have always wanted a lot of children, but once our first one was born, I realized that they were a much greater blessing than I had ever expected. I think I should have as many as God chooses to bless us with, and I pray that it will be many.<br><br>If I had to guess what number that would work out to be given my current age and the (natural) spacing of our children so far, barring any problems that could keep me from having more, I would say about 12 to 15.<br><br>As far as supporting such a large family - I honestly never ever worry about that. My husband does not take a salary for pastoring, so we live off a single income (not two jobs). God has blessed us more and more as our family has continued to grow, and I know that He is more than able to provide for us. Besides, it's not like kids live at home forever - I'm pretty sure that at the current rate we would never have more than 10 living at home at any given time - halfway there!<br><br>Tereza,<br><br>Thanks for the vote of confidence!<br><br>Frontier Farms,<br><br>I didn't mean to sound like there is a certain amount of months that pregnancies should be spaced. I know that even with the best efforts at breastfeeding, some moms have more milk than others, and some are more fertile than others. I for one really struggled with our oldest, and had to use lots of herbs to maintain my milk supply somewhat. My cycles returned when he was 5 months old and I got pregnant again within a couple of months. During that second pregnancy, I read every breastfeeding book I could find, and nursing was much easier with the second child. He also did not like solids until he was like 10 months old, which helped hold off my cycles. They pretty much come back within a couple of months of the babies starting solids, even though I keep nursing them, and I have never had more than 2 cycles between pregnancies. Our shortest gap between babies was 16.5 months, the longest was 2 years 2 months (but I had a miscarriage in between). The last two kids were 20 months apart, which was the second shortest gap. <br><br>With the first three, I was really scared of labor and birth. It's SO painful, and there is no way to get out of it, which made me panic, which made the pain worse. With baby number 4, I really prayed about birth a lot. Not so much that it wouldn't hurt, but that I would be able to handle it and not lose control. It was a really good labor, and I stayed on top of things right up until the end, but by then things went really fast. So with this 5th baby, I was not worried about giving birth, because I knew I could do it. This was a harder labor, but I stayed calm and in control the whole time in spite of the pain. It really helped to just take it one contraction at a time, and also remembering that I would soon be holding a new baby. I have found it also helps tremendously to talk to the baby calmly. It sounds funny, but they DO hear you, and I'm sure it must be at least as frightening to the baby to go through birth as it is for the mom. How much more so if Mom is screaming, rather than talking reassuringly? Plus, I think giving birth to girls is easier because they are smarter and know what to do! :)<br><br>Different things work for different people, so once you figure out what works for you it will be less scary. That's why home birth is so much better, because you never even get a chance to experience any of this at a hospital.ZSUZSANNAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03062136377263894876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-88022845865022541632008-11-05T20:07:00.001-07:002008-11-05T20:07:00.001-07:00Just wanted to say "Congrats" on the new...Just wanted to say "Congrats" on the new little one! We are pregnant with #5 right now, due in June. My milk starts to disappear around 6 months, so our babies are pretty close together (well, except for our 10 year old!) we have 10, 4, 2, and 14 months. Our 4 and 2 year old are 17 months apart and the 2 and 14 month old are 19 months apart. This last baby though, I found using an essential oil REALLY boosted my milk supply and I was able to nurse him for 10 months! Then, 3 short cycles later and another little blessing is on the way. I am not going to fib, I am already dreading labor and delivery. They are getting easier though, with the last one being just a 3 hour labor (the midwife was only here 45 minutes before he came!). Thanks for your post on the scheduling – we have never scheduled – at least not until they are a year or so. I saw the pictures of your little boy; his resemblance to my 4 year old boy is uncanny Frontier Farmshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12349850698504900590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-44966681039556448442008-11-05T20:07:00.002-07:002008-11-05T20:07:00.002-07:00NODDING HEAD:)NODDING HEAD:)Terezahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00550153942309359995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-74486360776418770802008-11-05T18:47:00.000-07:002008-11-05T18:47:00.000-07:00I have a question -- how many children do you thin...I have a question -- how many children do you think you should have? Should you keep having children until your body can't have them anymore or does God "let you know" when you've had enough? What about paying for them? I know your husband works two jobs to support you and your growing family and I applaud that -- but how many can you afford? I know the Duggar family in Arkansas has um 17 or 18 and doesn't seem like they are close to stopping anytime soon. Do you and your husband want as many or more? I'm just curious.Hopehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02976711831330274977noreply@blogger.com