tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post2374543730481777186..comments2024-03-05T19:29:18.578-07:00Comments on ARE THEY ALL YOURS?!??: 15 ways to be a blessing to your Pastor's wife (and a real-life application)Zsuzsannahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03062136377263894876noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-6838869490425476202018-02-26T13:49:34.168-07:002018-02-26T13:49:34.168-07:00I agree with you!!I agree with you!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-73931149993725741772017-10-12T18:04:21.464-07:002017-10-12T18:04:21.464-07:00The "boyfriend" comment was of questiona...The "boyfriend" comment was of questionable taste. Even if the Catholic priest were gay there isn't any evidence that gay men molest children more than straight men.Louise Mcbridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12706145481763938087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-80040230079998471952017-06-18T13:20:42.177-07:002017-06-18T13:20:42.177-07:00Thanks for the tips! Thanks for the tips! Laurienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-5186600283164723152017-06-11T19:22:08.603-07:002017-06-11T19:22:08.603-07:00What a lovely post prayers for you and your family...What a lovely post prayers for you and your family coming from the sun flower state.Jade wintergreenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08083898658041213790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-1545267834740979112017-05-28T15:24:15.935-07:002017-05-28T15:24:15.935-07:00Pastor's wives have a giant responsibility tha...Pastor's wives have a giant responsibility that perhaps they didn't ask for.. but they also have a huge opportunity to bless their sisters in Christ. I personally would be overwhelmed, but extending friendship seems like it should be a given. In personal experience, I have met both kinds of pastor's wives, ones who sideline people while forming cliques and close friendships with others, and ones who extend the same deep love and friendship to all. The latter is the kind that shows Christ's love to the hurting and needy. You do not need to spend a lot of time to show someone you really care about them, when you're busy people understand. It's the demeanor of a person, you can tell if they truly care for you. But saying this, I'm young, with a young family. I don't know how I would personally handle a lot of people trying to befriend me. I'm not a popular person and very plain. Women, except older Christian women, usually do not enjoy my company. There are exceptions here and there.. but for the most part. I have experienced a whole group of believers where not one did not love the others as family, developing close ties and friendships.. that was the sweetest fellowship I have ever experienced. I have also experienced churches full of cliques, where although people were kind and loving, the depth of fellowship and bond in Christ was not present in the same way. Women can't go to men, other women's husbands, for advice or solace.. It is not right! They look to the pastor's wife sometimes when they are in need of comfort or advice. When they feel friendless. I'm sure that is hard, but with the superficial nature of many churches, with hardly any real fellowship, people are grasping for someone who will befriend them with the focus of their friendship being Jesus and not fashion or sone other superficial thing. But saying all this, I understand where you're coming from.. it would be hard to minister to so many sisters with a large family constantly needing your attention. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-64535837770557885472017-05-23T07:22:55.604-07:002017-05-23T07:22:55.604-07:00Fruit Gal 522- Agreed. The ones that are common c...Fruit Gal 522- Agreed. The ones that are common courtesy should be a 'given' as that is the way people should treat other people!ShanaMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12608402862529359113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-39185702942857690352017-05-22T14:39:51.951-07:002017-05-22T14:39:51.951-07:00Most of these are a given (ie., "Remember she...Most of these are a given (ie., "Remember she is human."), but the average person may not necessarily have time or want to use their time to send you notes of encouragement, participate in your activities, find out your love language, volunteer to help or make a meal for your family. In fact, I highly doubt I'd ever even consider doing any of those things for my pastor's wife. But yeah, the rest are a given.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10035458292888499923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-19669587856006359312017-05-13T11:04:01.292-07:002017-05-13T11:04:01.292-07:00Wow, sorry if I hit a nerve. Just respond to peopl...Wow, sorry if I hit a nerve. Just respond to people's texts. You'll be happier for it. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-11125403716784285902017-05-11T21:48:06.350-07:002017-05-11T21:48:06.350-07:00Oh, one more, since you thrive on lengthy response...Oh, one more, since you thrive on lengthy responses...<br /><br />I never said that I want people to text ME encouragement. It was an example that speaks to the hearts of SOME pastor's wives. Chances are, those who care about that as their love language DO respond to texts. <br /><br />Me, personally - encouraging texts are not high on my list of 'love languages'. I was not speaking for myself only. So I guess that means I took time out of my busy day to write something for the benefit of others. EEEK!Zsuzsannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03062136377263894876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-40636865880251293452017-05-11T21:44:57.786-07:002017-05-11T21:44:57.786-07:00You are the exact type of person that needs to rea...You are the exact type of person that needs to read this list again.<br /><br />Often in the morning when I get up, I already have multiple text messages waiting for me. Some of them are urgent and need an immediate response. By the time I am done responding to them, reading my Bible, preparing for the day, dealing with kids getting up and having needs, I may completely get sidetracked and not remember to respond to non-emergent messages. Then they get buried by more texts throughout the day. There are also messages coming in via email and FB. <br /><br />Other days, everything might be smooth sailing with time to respond. Of course I would love to be able to respond to every message I ever get. But it's just not realistic. If people are sending a text only to see if and when they get a response back, their heart is not in the right place to begin with. Which is why I'm quite certain you have not sent any encouraging message to any pastor's wife anytime in recent history, if ever. Zsuzsannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03062136377263894876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-17008212887709845472017-05-11T21:38:50.309-07:002017-05-11T21:38:50.309-07:00Yes, that's true. But be sure to keep your kid...Yes, that's true. But be sure to keep your kids far away from his boyfriend.Zsuzsannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03062136377263894876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-14196687242445340762017-05-11T21:38:00.668-07:002017-05-11T21:38:00.668-07:00Gifts from anyone are welcome, and yes, handmade w...Gifts from anyone are welcome, and yes, handmade would be lovely!Zsuzsannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03062136377263894876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-34318093055185154232017-05-11T15:42:58.994-07:002017-05-11T15:42:58.994-07:00What is wrong with some of u ladies? Quit being ni...What is wrong with some of u ladies? Quit being nitpickers. I appreciate your advice on how to be a blessing to our PW. Sometimes we overlook the fact that they are people to who need to be encouraged and loved as well. Thank u again for all the pointers :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-16755742039792023792017-05-11T01:30:41.777-07:002017-05-11T01:30:41.777-07:00Is this just for people who know these ladies in r...Is this just for people who know these ladies in real life or can anyone send gifts? Could I send some hand made things? <br /><br />Anjaleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09879378893354146144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-62134634797178274852017-05-08T08:56:01.773-07:002017-05-08T08:56:01.773-07:00I'm quite glad I'm Catholic and don't ...I'm quite glad I'm Catholic and don't need to be worrying about learning my pastor's wife's love language or whether I'm being friendly and helpful enough but not seeming like I expect friendship in return Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-34464510806952899412017-05-07T14:44:57.018-07:002017-05-07T14:44:57.018-07:00If you want people to text you encourgement, you s...If you want people to text you encourgement, you should take the few seconds to text them back. "Thanks" or even "tx" will do. Telling them not to expect a reply is poor form.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-25702032036034964672017-05-06T18:23:02.244-07:002017-05-06T18:23:02.244-07:00Christi, your first comment was neither a question...Christi, your first comment was neither a question nor advice, it was thinly veiled, condescending criticism. Why are you surprised that it was not well received? <br /><br />The gift baskets will be filled with cards and gifts. The cards would cover the following non-material points of the post: words of affirmation, expressing gratitude, dropping a note of encouragement, etc. It seems that YOU are the one focusing solely on the material. <br /><br />I have a hunch that had I posted about cards and gifts in a separate post, you would have taken issue with that, too.Zsuzsannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03062136377263894876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-4023437806654216402017-05-06T17:43:32.826-07:002017-05-06T17:43:32.826-07:00In a post about tips for us to minister to our PW,...In a post about tips for us to minister to our PW, with the real life application to send gifts or money for other PW, I should not have "honed in" on gift giving? <br /><br />I would have rather left a comment some other way than anonymous so I did. You are right in that I did not leave my blog address and your comment to me was a bit disrespectful. You have no idea who I am, and the Bible does speak of the older woman teaching the younger woman.<br />Excuse me for being an illiterate old bible hag. Christinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-81680734499212285442017-05-06T16:08:45.921-07:002017-05-06T16:08:45.921-07:00We have knocked all the doors in our neighborhood ...We have knocked all the doors in our neighborhood many times. Two families from our subdivision have been coming since the first week we started the church 11 years ago, even though they have since moved out of this part of town. Two other families from our own street have come to church multiple times. There is a huge difference between us reaching out to those already living here, and someone seeking us out for the sake of being near us. <br /><br />I can only guess that members of our church read my blog. We are comfortable with putting a large amount of our lives out there for public scrutiny. Which makes it all the more important that when we DO draw a line, it is respected and not pushed further.<br /><br />Under the point of love languages, I listed examples for all 'five love languages'. You are honing in one just one of those.<br /><br />It was no accident that I mentioned the gift baskets in this post (I even called it a 'real-life application'). Those who find that objectionable were not going to send a note or small gift anyway.<br /><br />I would have loved to take more lessons from your successful blog and ministry, but unfortunately your screen name links to neither. Those who can, do. Those who can't, teach.Zsuzsannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03062136377263894876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-91849694039576540472017-05-06T16:01:21.017-07:002017-05-06T16:01:21.017-07:00I will do a more in-depth post on this topic.I will do a more in-depth post on this topic.Zsuzsannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03062136377263894876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-54210316561380455992017-05-06T15:47:50.210-07:002017-05-06T15:47:50.210-07:00I am supposing that you do not soul win in your ow...I am supposing that you do not soul win in your own neighborhood or invite people from your neighborhood to your church based on number 13. If that is the case, then why bother doing it in other neighborhoods? Or maybe you could clarify that and reword it to say the same thing a bit differently. <br /><br />Biblically speaking, the PW holds no office. Respect should come from the heart of the congregants.<br /><br />It is also unfortunate that as a PW, you and the children are under much more scrutiny than regular congregants. <br /><br />Also, do any of your church people read your blog? It is like an open book to your family. Scrutiny abounds and sometimes harshly because of fb and blogs and youtube. You're being watched more so than you actually think you are. <br /><br />On gifts and love languages, while it might be nice to get a gift, everyone doesn't speak the same languages. Their language may be time or words of affirmation. So, as a PW, you might be attuned to all of the love languages that are being spoken to you every time you are with your congregation. <br /><br />It is sweet of you to want to give gifts to the other PW at your sister churches, but a little discretion would be advisable and more honorable if the requests for gifts for the baskets would not have come in the same post as the tips.<br /><br />Christinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-34983481197349915712017-05-06T06:28:57.607-07:002017-05-06T06:28:57.607-07:00I have never heard of a it being illegal for a chu...I have never heard of a it being illegal for a church to give small loans or donations to people. Every church I have ever known sets aside a portion of its funds for the emergency needs of it's parishioners. Sometimes, pastors will tell the congregation and a special collection will be done. Obviously, churches can't help everyone, but with both a literal and allegorical reading of Matthew 25:31-46, we are called by Christ to charity. Does your church not do similar?Laurennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-18353190508933782402017-05-05T22:43:17.272-07:002017-05-05T22:43:17.272-07:00You can assign the gifts yourself, or leave them a...You can assign the gifts yourself, or leave them anonymous, in which case I will evenly distribute them. Thank you!Zsuzsannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03062136377263894876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-42075375562790284182017-05-05T16:59:52.335-07:002017-05-05T16:59:52.335-07:00This is fascinating stuff, and such good advice. I...This is fascinating stuff, and such good advice. I know that I can take my pastor's wife for granted without even thinking about it. I need to keep this post around a re-read it often.<br /><br />When my husband was considering accepting an eldership at our church (which is very like being an associate pastor), I immediately started stressing about the responsibilities that it would entail. I can only imagine how difficult it is to be the wife of a long-term full-time pastor. You do it beautifully and gracefully, and I love hearing about it so that I can know how to honor and help our pastor's wife. Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10301075330910381544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3454355557116314654.post-24870682492067843362017-05-05T11:45:40.814-07:002017-05-05T11:45:40.814-07:00Love the advice and real-life application! If I ma...Love the advice and real-life application! If I mail a gift, is it best to leave the recipient anonymous and assume you'll evenly divide the gifts among the wives?Elizabethnoreply@blogger.com