Tuesday, June 19, 2012

But does it increase drug use among mothers??

Interesting article in the news last week: Do family dinners really reduce teen drug use?
Contrary to previous findings, a large new study finds that family meals may have little effect on reducing teen drug use long-term

Few would disagree that sitting down to dinner together as a family is a good thing.
[Evidently, I am one of the few. By dinner time, my ears are bleeding from all the laughing, squabbling, talking, giggling, screeching, blathering, yelling, singing, ... all day long - eating the last meal of the day with yet more noise is sure to cause indigestion.]

It can help families eat healthier, encourage meaningful conversation and according to some addiction researchers, it even keeps kids from using drugs.

["Encourage" conversation? WHY??? Clearly, these parents must have very different children than ours. We are still trying to figure out how to get them to be quiet once in a while.]

My only question is: Do family dinners increase drug use among homeschooling mothers of many? Now there's a study worth looking into.


  1. I think the target of the last statement (that talking should be encouraged) is the teenager age range. Most teens are not as willing to chat and communicate with their parents as younger children.

  2. Haha...funny. I also can't get my kids to stop talking. But then again, our children are still quite young (your oldest is 10, my oldest is almost 8). I hear that things change dramatically when they become teenagers. Even a homeschooled teen will have thoughts and ideas that he/she doesn't want to share with mom and dad, which is normal. The good news for you is that you'll still have younger children for quite some time if you keep up at this rate :-) But, eventually, everybody's house gets quieter, and then we may yearn for those non-stop noisy meals. For now, though, I could use an Advil!

  3. You should begin a new practice of quiet time. We all need quiet time. Tell the children that quiet time will be at whatever time: they can read, color, or draw during that time but no talking or noise. I would schedule it before dinner. Then at dinner time each child can have a time to share, but only one at a time.

    I'm not sure what I did right but I have 3 adult children, ages 29, 33, and 35. None smoke and none ever used drugs. I have friends who were very good parents too yet had 1 or more children experiment with drugs.

  4. I will be completely honest here. I NEED quiet when I'm eating. I love enjoying my meal, slowly, comfortably. I actually prefer eating alone. Only with my thoughts as company. Since I am married, it is really rude of me not to eat with my husband, but I treasure every single meal consumed alone. When someone calls me or orders me to get up from my seat during my mealtime... that makes me go ballistic.
    I also love quiet. I'm planning to have kids soon - you may look down on me, but only two because of my lack of tolerance towards noise - and heck, they'll learn how to be quiet at the table. BTW I totally find chewing food and speaking at the same time gross, yuck, who wants to see that?
    So... two kids and lotsa quiet. It cannot be otherwise, it'd be impossible for me.
    And yeah, family time can be performed in the living room without anything eaten at the same time.
    My kids will have to learn to be quiet, I'll even hire a supernanny in case I'll fail. Impossible to me to endure constant noise.

  5. Hahaha, very good question!

  6. You made me laugh out loud when I read this. I can't imagine a quiet house, and I "only" have four children!

  7. I think the idea of a quiet time is great! It gives everyone a break and time to "regroup." Of course, the little ones won't be able to comply in the same way the older ones do, but, with those allowances, it could do everyone some good; if you're feeling stressed with all the noise, the chances are that your kids are, too. They may seem to enjoy the commotion, but chances are that, underneath the surface, they're ready for quiet, too.

    I like the idea of having quiet time right before dinner. Then, at dinner, you can share. We never did this, but I've heard of some families asking everyone at the table what was best and worst about their days, and where they saw God working in a wonderful way.

    Other Sally

  8. Elizabeth and anon,

    I have observed "silent time" ever since our oldest child was born. The little kids (typically 5 and under) nap, while the older kids go to different rooms and either read, do school work, or play quietly. Typically, this time lasts about 2 hours in the early afternoon every day.

    Dinners are loud in our house because everyone is full of energy, dad comes home from work, and I am obviously getting tired by then. Some families are louder than others - all our kids take after dad, who comes from a very high-spirited family.

  9. I actually LOVE it when my children are noisy (ok, not ALL the time but mostly) ;) It reminds me of how blessed I am to have each one of them. :)

  10. This really did make me laugh!! As a mom of 4, I can totally relate. I think the idea of quiet time is a great one also.

  11. That's why cocktail hour starts at 4pm.

    I have the loudest kids ever. Oh, wait, I bet YOU do! LOL!


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