Wow, so many questions! I never knew this many people cared about my opinion. Hopefully you all are a patient bunch because I think it might take me at least a week to answer them.
Today was one of THOSE days. I let the little girls skip their naps because I had to take all six kids to Solomon's piano lesson. Becky napped in the car for a half hour or so, but by the early evening, both her and Miriam were really emotional and cranky.
I got to the end of my day feeling like a supreme loser, because of all the things I had to get done today, I didn't even finish half. Then I thought of all the things I DID do (a whole long list of them), and I felt a little better - but not much, because all the other stuff is still waiting for me, plus more. Motherhood feels like bailing water from a sinking ship all day, every day. You never get ahead, but if you stop, you drown. I mean, how many times in a day, week, month, year do I wash the same dishes, fold the same laundry, sweep the same messes, and say the same things? Then I look at my sweet children, and they instantly make all the boring, mundane chores seem worthwhile. I mean, who else would I rather be working for? Every job I have ever had was boring and repetitive at times. At least this one is truly worthwhile!
I read a quote recently I really liked: "There are no perfect moms, but there are a million ways to be a great mom." Isn't that so true? Each little act of love and kindness, each time we stop what we are doing to kiss that little face, or help that older child, each time we go out of our way, above and beyond the "minimum" - they are all like little bricks building a "house", the word that the Bible often uses referring to families. I want a huge, big, splendid mansion of a family, no matter the cost. There are always shortcuts, cop-outs, and plenty of people that have no aspirations beyond mediocrity to pull us back, but I truly strive to be the best mom I can be, rather than just being content to be "average". Sure, I fail every day, but I'd still rather set high goals that I can aim for. It is such an encouragement to read about other mothers with the same desire, and to learn from them. What did ladies ever do before the internet??
One of the things we did today was to buy 8 baby chicks, and get them all set up. We have had chickens before, but we bought them when they were already laying. I figured this would be more fun for the kids. The thought crossed my mind that I was glad I'm not "Octomom" - even taking care of the 8 chicks in addition to the six kids kept me on my toes today. What if they were little newborns all needing to be fed, changed, bathed, rocked, and loved - all at the same time???!?
Solomon got to stay up late, and he so badly wanted to play a board game. My brain said no, but in my heart I knew these years are so few, and fleeting. I let him pick whatever game he wanted (Ticket to Ride - Märklin edition). He lost, which was sad for me because I'm pathetic like that, but I think he still enjoyed the special time. Oh, firstborn children are so special - they get to endure all our mess-ups, but they have also been with us from the very beginning of this parenting journey. We couldn't have asked for better children. They truly are life's greatest blessing.
Most of my housework gets done at night after the kids are in bed. Tonight, I still have to mop the floors and juice more lemons. The bathrooms could stand being cleaned, too, but I am not kidding myself. My husband is working late tonight, the kids are sleeping, so I really should make the most of this time. I am tired, but I never sleep well when my husband is driving home at night.
Well, I better go. This was supposed to be a quick post, and here I just spent 20 minutes sitting around writing. Have a wonderful rest of the week everyone!