Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Oh my, my, where to start?

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Please note: I have only highlighted spelling errors, but have not corrected the punctuation (or rather, the lack thereof).


Anonymous said...
Wow its funny how your so against tv ( I am too ) but you spend just as much time bloging, reading comments, reading other blogs and leaving comments. You will say its different but really it takes just as much time to do all that stuff as it does to watch a tv show. So if your sitting at the computer screen or the tv what's the difference. It's still not spending time with the kids. And you have said that you watch all the dugger episodes online, again tell me the difference? Your bloging instead of spending time with your kids. You will say well I only do it when they are sleeping, so why would it be wrong for a husband and wife to watch a Andy, or dugger episode after the kids have went to bed? Should I just look at stuff online and thats different? The internet can be a useful tool but bloging is just so stupid I am no longer going to read blogs and wast my time. I've relized how much time it takes away from my day. The Bible says your life is like a vapor, I don't want to waste anymore of it on worthless blogs. Blogging and all this networking has gottwn way out of hand! We don't have a computer, we have internet on our phone to look up stuff, but it cannot access porn sites or other horriable dangers, and advertisements that are bad that pop up on GOOD websites. I know you can put protection on it but there doent seem to be any good enough for computers. When your children get older they may have a time where they sneek on the computer and they see things they shouldn't. You say well i can see they history, its to late by then. And another thing why would you post pics of your children for the world to see on the internet, there are some real creeps out there that could easly find you because you have put your church and city where you are on here, so be careful. Thoes people who don't post such info are smart! I don't want to post my life on the world wide web its just so stupid.
March 8, 2010 8:13 AM




Anonymous,

I was thinking someone might raise the objections you mentioned, because they are quite common. It is too bad, though, that your grammar, spelling, and style leave so much to be desired, because it really takes away from what little power your arguments may have had.

But to answer your questions, I think there is a vast difference between reading or writing and watching TV. The latter requires no effort on the part of the recipient whatsoever. People who read/write blogs, or search the internet for information, are no different than someone obtaining that same information from actually printed materials. The only difference is that they are getting it off a screen rather than a piece of paper.

Surely nobody would argue that reading a book is as detrimental to one's ability to think clearly as sitting in front of a TV is. There have been numerous studies showing how the right and left halves of our brains are negatively affected by watching clips on TV. There's just something about pictures coming at you at a rate of 24 frames per second that lulls the human brain into a stupor. Such is not the case when looking at a website, which is a single image on a screen.

Now I do agree that some people will waste their time on a computer, but they could just as easily waste it on the phone, or on any other hobby they have. It's not the technology that's bad, it's the unwise use of time.

As far as watching something like the Duggar episodes online, I agree that technologically, there is no difference to watching it on TV.

However, there are no commercial breaks, which is the only thing I would find objectionable about those episodes. Since they are 20 minutes total every week (that's 3 minutes per day on average), I doubt such little time would have the same detrimental effect on someone's brain as watching TV for 270 minutes per day would. I mean, if we should NEVER see video footage, we shouldn't even watch recordings of our own families. It's silly. But nobody would think to sit and watch home videos for 4 1/2 hours every day, and if they did, it would be detrimental to their physical and mental well-being.

This post was not about discussing if there is any difference between spending 20 minutes per week watching one episode on a TV screen versus on a monitor. I was addressing the average daily time that Americans watch TV.

You are right in that I only blog and use the computer when the kids are sleeping, my husband is not home, and my housework is done. For me, blogging is a hobby, and the internet is a tool to gather and share information. My blog has had an impact in many people's lives because of the issues it exposes. I don't see a difference between writing a book with the same information in it, or a blog, except for the fact that the latter is more readily accessible.

As far as bad things popping up on good websites, this is such a hoax. I mean, maybe you consider websites "good" that I would consider questionable and therefore avoid, because I have NEVER had anything weird pop up on the sites I frequent. I challenge you to even give me one example of a wholesome website with a questionable popup. As far as ads go, I use Firefox with ad-block plus, so I never see any ads.

The internet is like a library. There is a lot of bad stuff there, but you have to seek it out intentionally to get it. With TV, it's just dished up for you, and you don't chose what might pop up on screen next.

Your argument about my kids gaining access to the computer and misusing it is so laughable. If the only thing that stands between my kids and porn is some software, I have really failed in my role as a parent. My kids will not look at porn for the same reason I don't - because it is wrong, and I don't have the least desire to go down that road of wickedness and debauchery. By your arguments, maybe you would just handcuff your child(ren) permanently and lock them into their rooms, since that would be the only way to make sure they wouldn't be tempted to do anything wrong.

I am sorry to hear your life is so stupid you don't want to post it on the world wide web, as you stated in your last sentence.

And should you decide to leave more comments in spite of the fact that you hate reading blogs, here's a tip: if you highlight what you wrote, and then right-click on it, you can select "Check Spelling" and save yourself some embarrassment. Of course, it wouldn't help you with mix-ups such as "your" instead of "you're" or "they" for "their", but it would be a start. Maybe you should crack open an English book and read instead of watching "Andy".

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Edited to add:
Less than one hour after publishing this post, I received the following comment from the original commenter. I do not regularly get on the computer during the day, but when this popped up on my phone, I laughed so hard I just had to share it with everyone else:

Wow a whole post just on my comment how special. Oh where to start, I find it so funny that you call yourself a Christian and are so nasty, I was in a hurry and no the phone I am on doesn't have spell check, yes I should be more careful with that because that's the frist thing you point out and want to dismiss what I write. but I could go back to your postings and find many grammer and spelling errors, and I have. Your not as perfect as you claim to be. What was the verse about the mote in your own eye? I'm sorry I didnt know your kids were perfect and not sinners like the Bible says we all are and they cant mess up. I know good christian homes where this has happened. so I would want to protect my kids and not just asume they will be perfect all the time. And watching tv for 20-30 mins once a week is no different then watching a Dugger episode like you. sorry I didn't capitalize their name last time and you got so offended. Feel free to take more time to spell check my post. I never said I thought it was ok to watch tv for hours so I dont know where you got that from? well I wont go on and on but I did think your response was funny. And my life isnt stupid but I dont want my children all over the internent and other stuff. Why is it that no one can have a different opion from yours and you are so cold and nasty to people. From your other post you seem to think your better then everyone eles. I've got news for you the KJ Bible says we are all sinners and we all can get saved. The 2nd greatest commandment is to LOVE others as yourself! You say comments don't bother you, but you did a whole post on mine, buy yeah I can see how this post is going to "change peoples lives"


I think the comment speaks for itself. The only thing I want to add is this: why does this person, who hates reading blogs and commenting on them, check my blog so frequently, and leave me lengthier comments than I leave for all blogs that I read cumulatively in one month? And for thinking that I am a nasty Christian, she sounds a little nasty herself, dontchathink? I do seem to remember her leaving me a nasty comment to begin with, and me merely responding to her concerns.

I received another anonymous comment a few minutes later, I'm guessing from the same person:

So when some creep finds out where you live and comes and attacks you while just you and your kids are home you will do what? This has happened! And some creep could have a pic of your kid gross!

What would I do if they attacked me or the kids? I wouldn't let it come to that, because I would put a bullet through them before they could get their hands on us. I have a concealed weapons permit and carry a gun whenever out and about. I hope I never have to use it, but I would not even think twice about doing so if I had to. In the house, the guns are safely stored out of the kids' reach, who would never ever dream about touching them because they have been properly trained, but they are readily available to me should I need them. Yet, all that aside, I rely on God to keep us safe.

If my husband lived a less public life, nobody would seek out a random family like us, because they would not even know we existed. But because he does live a public life, people already know who we are, what our kids look like, etc. I am not living in a bubble. God can keep me alive in any situation, and if He thinks it's time for me to go, then I can't do anything to stop that, either. I do consider myself a very protective and responsible mother.

24 comments:

  1. Aside from agreeing with everything you responded to "Anonymous", I especially took note of the "putting pictures of your children on the internet" comment. I was told by a former pastor that I should not be doing this for the same reason that "Anonymous" gave. My response to him is that I know where my children are at all times. If they are not with me and/or their father, they are with a trusted friend of ours. Should we discover that this friend can no longer be trusted to hold to the same values as our, especially with our children in their care, our children will no longer be allowed to spend time with them away from us.
    I also want to say "Amen!" to your statement concerning the fact that if we teach our children Godly values, they will deny ungodliness because they know it is wrong.
    While I may not agree with all that you post in your blog, I enjoy reading and being challenged.
    God bless you and your family.
    Becky Laywell

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  2. Wow a whole post just on my comment how special. Oh where to start, I find it so funny that you call yourself a Christian and are so nasty, I was in a hurry and no the phone I am on doesn't have spell check, yes I should be more careful with that because that's the frist thing you point out and want to dismiss what I write. but I could go back to your postings and find many grammer and spelling errors, and I have. Your not as perfect as you claim to be. What was the verse about the mote in your own eye? I'm sorry I didnt know your kids were perfect and not sinners like the Bible says we all are and they cant mess up. I know good christian homes where this has happened. so I would want to protect my kids and not just asume they will be perfect all the time. And watching tv for 20-30 mins once a week is no different then watching a Dugger episode like you. sorry I didn't capitalize their name last time and you got so offended. Feel free to take more time to spell check my post. I never said I thought it was ok to watch tv for hours so I dont know where you got that from? well I wont go on and on but I did think your response was funny. And my life isnt stupid but I dont want my children all over the internent and other stuff. Why is it that no one can have a different opion from yours and you are so cold and nasty to people. From your other post you seem to think your better then everyone eles. I've got news for you the KJ Bible says we are all sinners and we all can get saved. The 2nd greatest commandment is to LOVE others as yourself! You say comments don't bother you, but you did a whole post on mine, buy yeah I can see how this post is going to "change peoples lives"

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  3. So when some creep finds out where you live and comes and attacks you while just you and your kids are home you will do what? This has happened! And some creep could have a pic of your kid gross!

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  4. I thnk it's safe to say that you have been called a lot of things, no? A neglectful mother is not one of them.

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  5. It amuses me that people who are so against blogging would spend so much time reading a blog and then leaving a very long comment on one. If you don't like blogs don't read them or comment on them.

    I'm not sure what the person commenting hoped to achieve, but I think it is safe to surmise that they failed in their purpose.

    I agree that the Internet is a neutral resource. It is what we choose to do with it that will make it a good or a bad thing. This is also true of how we teach our children to use such a resource. Good and evil both come from within our hearts, not from the Internet.

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  6. Zsuzsanna,

    This may be one case of person who should NOT homeschool : )

    Anna

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  7. Hehehehe. I agree with you Zsuzsa!!! This person is I believe probably the same person who wrote me nasty comments for my comments on your blog. You are so right and I have seen you with those children. You are with them and include them in everything. Your response was great. Some people are so ignorant beyond words on issues like this.

    Jessica

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  8. Wow, watching the Duggars for 20 minutes?! Tell me it isn't true!!! You really should get back to work! Just kidding. :)I agree with the person who said the person who made that comment shouldn't be homeschooling! Lol!

    Concerned Texan

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  9. I have been reading your blog for a while, but have not posted a comment. I enjoy it!

    There need to be more people, like you who stand up for Godliness and raise children of God.

    Bless you and your family. You are in our prayers.

    Kimmie Gessler (mama to 5 girls)

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  10. I take what I find useful from your blog and leave what I don't. I actually like your "Everyday things to do instead of watching TV" list, even though we are a tv watching family. It has lots of ideas to make life more meaningful and memorable. However, this statement you made [ My blog has had an impact in many people's lives because of the issues it exposes.] does sound a bit prideful and maybe that's her/his real issue with you. If your blog has had an inpact on anyone,like you say it has.... shouldn't the Lord get the credit?

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  11. Good response. I too, found it rather humorous that they stated that they think that it is a waste of time to read blogs, while they are clearly reading yours (more than once!)

    I admire you for the stands you take and the boldness that you exhibit when others put you down. Very good quality that many more Christians should have.

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  12. I'm not saying that the person who commented was right on everything, but you were mean to them when you didn't need to be.

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  13. Zsuzsanna, this isn't related to this post but just wanted to ask a quick question. On the side bar under your most popular posts I've been clicking to read them and I'm getting an error message that they no longer exist. Are they gone or is something up with my computer firewall? I would really like to read some of those. Thanks

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  14. Hmmmm..... Well, I agree that the person with the nasty comments should just stay OFF the blog instead of taking so much time to insult. Sorry but blogging is NOTHING like watching TV. Not even close. While blogging I don't have to worry about things popping up in my face without warning. You know how many time we were out somewhere where there was a TV and I had to shield my kid's eyes real fast? What's up with commercials of women in their bra and underwear? Or two women in bed together? Blogging doesn't throw that stuff at me. You can NEVER compare watching a 20 min show of the Duggars online with no commercials vs. watching TV in the house. We call it the Boob Tube here. Blogging is being creative. Journaling. Documenting. Whatever you want to call it. Like she said, it's reading and writing. She also has every right to post her opinions on here as to what she believes in her heart. If it bothers you so much, there is no pressure to keep visiting here. Let her have her free say as to what her beliefs are. I don't own a boob tube myself nor do I plan on getting one. I've never had anything bad pop up on me either because the sites I visit (which is never Myspace) are not questionable in anyway.

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  15. When I say Myspace, I'm meaning that Myspace is an example of visiting somewhere questionable. While I'm a facebook person, I'm very careful what sites I pick as safe to visit. The moment it turns into anything like Myspace I'll delete my account.

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  16. lol, all this made me smile. Your blog often does. I don´t like blogs though, yours is the only one I read regularly (and that just started a couple of weeks ago when I found it by accident)

    Like you I have never had a problem with pop ups on "good" websites, and I don´t want to look at porn either so it doesn´t appear where I´m at. Simple as that. And the comments about God protecting us are so true, it´s wonderful to live life with a trust in God.

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  17. And btw I used to be a higly "respected" blogger in my country once, hehehe, but after about 3 years of it I just couldn´t do it any more (I was always digging around and finding something interesting for people and it took way to much of my own time) and I even stopped following other blogs at the same time. Most of it is just so useless. What I like about you is how out-spoken you are and take on controversial issues.

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  18. Hello!

    I've been reading your blog for a couple of months now and find your writing very interesting. I agree with you on a lot of issues you address.

    Would it be okay to give you a bit of encouragement in a particular area? And please note that I need reproved on a regular basis myself! If we are wise we will seek out reproof and correction.

    I think your blog could be even more effective and edifying if you worked on expressing a little more humility. I am not saying that you are a proud person. So often we don't even realize how we appear to others! So often you seem to be so quick to defend yourself and prove why you are right, before you even have the chance to consider that you might not be. Or even if you ARE right, your tone isn't gracious. For instance, their was absolutely no need to point out someone's spelling and grammar. Making fun of someone just to make yourself look better is not demonstrating a meek and quiet spirit, is it? Is it encouraging and helpful? A gracious lady with the Holy Spirit indwelling her should overlook something so small, not point it out.

    Would it not be encouraging to all of your less-than-perfect readers if you would even do a post or two that confesses an area in which you struggle? Maybe you have and I just haven't read it yet. If you regularly have people comment on what they perceive as an unloving spirit in your writing from time to time, don't rush to defend yourself! Simply apologize for even appearing to be! You could even admit that it's an area you need to work on, if it is.

    We are all sinners! We all have areas of weakness. We don't need to cover them up or excuse them. Simply admitting it will give you common ground with so many in the body of Christ, who would love to encourage and help.

    I don't expect you to publish this, or necessarily want you to. I just wanted to encourage you, and you are free to do the same for me!

    Love, Kim

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  19. hey,

    I just looked at your blog for the first time today. I do not know much about you but, I like to listen to your husband preach on the internet.

    I think that you could have been much kinder to the poor lady that you made fun of for having poor English and grammar skills. Not that I am perfect by any means whatsoever, but please consider being more gentle with others.

    You never know who might be reading your blogs. Someone that is lost could read it and be turned off.

    I will continue to listen to your husband, but I do pray that you will consider heeding my advice.

    love,
    Kizzy

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  20. It is quite funny how you point out the grammar mistakes from the above paragraph. Yet, do you realize that on your map, you list Alaska as a country and not a state?

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  21. The last time I checked, visual images (whether it be on the Internet or a television screen) affect all people in a monumental way.

    You mean to tell me that something like National Geographic is a heinous channel on television to watch? How can your children be affected by watching nature? They will see it either on television or in person. And have you ever heard of a parental block?

    It sounds to me like your fatuous excuse for a husband has brainwashed you, and you are sadly passing it onto your children. Ultimately, they will grow up to be bitter, unethical conformists. If you were a real mother, you would raise them, not shame them. Let them decide where they want to be and end up in life.

    And I thought people got smarter when they got older? Too bad you didn't!

    LOVE YOUR BLOG!
    Regards, Tennessee

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  22. I could care less if this gets posted, this message is for you. I agree 100% with firstfruitsfarmne. He/she was just kinder in their approach. I do not like to engage in bickering or condemning because that is not God pleasing, but your arrogance just gets under my skin. I want to like you because we have a similar belief system, but you can be quite nasty and seem to be proud of it. You say one thing about how we are to live our lives in a God pleasing manner, but at times you act in a way that is not God pleasing. No one is perfect (with the exception of Jesus), but you come across as thinking you are pretty close.

    From reading over your blogs and the responses, it seems the comments that praise and encourage your less than desirable behavior are from people that know you in person. It is not an admirable thing for a Christian woman to be so cruel and vile to another. It is not sticking up for yourself, it is plainly and simply being mean spirited. You did not have to publicly humiliate this person, regardless of what they said about you. Please show me where in scripture the Lord tells us it is pleasing for a woman to mock others? Do you feel that your husband would be proud of his wife for being quarrelsome with others? Does behaving in this manner assist in lifting up his ministry? This blog is open for the world to view. You have a platform to set an example of a virtuous woman. While maybe 95% of what you post is a great example living a Christian life, the remaining 5% prideful nastiness you exude nullifies the good.

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  23. You barely addressed the commenter's questioning of how much time you spend on this blog. You just kept jibbering from your pedestal in a very condescending manner. You kind of skipped right over that. I don't believe you for a second that you only blog when kids are napping, the chores are done, and the husband is away.

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