Friday, July 10, 2009

Feel the love

Every day, I get many comments on this blog that I reject for various reasons. Contrary what I regularly get accused of, this does not constitute censorship. I am not stopping anyone from saying anything on their own platform. But as the publisher of this blog, I am under no obligation whatsoever to make their voice heard on my blog. Not any more so than a book publisher is obligated to publish every book that is submitted to them. They reject stuff they don't like, and I do the same.

Just for fun, though, I thought I would share a small sampling of the lovely comments I have received this week. For easier reading, I have color-coded the comments and my responses.

Have you ever stepped into a college or university? Have you ever made more than $10.00 an hour in your life? Have you ever worked for a Fortune 500 company? Have you ever traveled beyond the U.S. border? Have you ever spent the night at $2,000 hotel room? Then shut don't know what you are talking about when it comes to anything outside of your house. How can you talk about women who work outside of their home if you NEVER have?

The words in your blog aren't your own? They are your husband's sentiments with your name on it. You, my friend, are being controlled by your husband. You know and I know it.

The world will know it when we read about the murder/suicide of your family, at the hands of your husband, one day in the news. It has happened countless times all over this country. Your husband will be convinced it's for your family's own good...and that God told him to do it. He is the poster child for paranoid, controlling and psychotic. I WISH THIS WEREN'T TRUE....God knows! You are on my prayer list because I fear for you and your family. I pray that God protects you from this monster!

Yes, before I was a Christian I went to college and majored in cultural anthropology, and also studied political science and journalism (in Germany, where I went to college, you pick one major and two minor courses of study). I have worked as a professional translator of medical journals for years, and depending on how long it took me to translate a text, would make $25-50/hour from home. I have not accepted any assignments in almost one year now because it was getting too much to work at night after taking care of the kids all day, and my husband makes very good money with his own company. Why be a worker bee at a Fortune500 company when you can run your own business? I have been to just about every European country and their capitals. I have never spent $2000 on a hotel room, but we have several times sent that much extra to the mortgage company in one month in order to pay our house off faster, which is a much wiser financial decision. Why anyone who does not meet all of your strange and irrelevant criteria should "shut up" is not quite clear to me - do you think that we should be ruled by a small handful of rich, out of touch with reality elite? Do you not believe in freedom of speech? Must personal blogs only contain information approved by snobs like yourself?

A wife being controlled by her husband is only biblical, and if anything, I do not attain to that standard like I should. Most men are controlled by their wives, which is truly sickening.

I think you missed the point of my post, because women in the workforce are the ones who are controlled by others all day long, while I do what I want with my time.

That's awfully judge-y, for a so-called Christian. You give Christians a bad name.

It is a common misconception that Christians are not supposed to judge anything or anyone. Please read this post.

This comes from my heart as an older Christian woman to a younger Christian wife and mother. Your husband has been charged with two "misdemeanors" and the outcome of his trail is yet to be determined. IF he should lose his court battle and IF he should have to serve time, do you really want to be pregnant and/or have a new baby? Would it be wise to wait? Do you have any apprehension about the outcome? Could the videos be damaging to his trial?

From what you post, your husband is rarely, if ever, there to help you now and Solomon is taking on the role of "man of the house" while your husband pours his time and energy into other areas.

Oh my, this comment made me laugh and scratch my head. People never fail to amaze me. I think this lady was actually well intentioned. No, it is extremely unlikely that my husband will have to "serve time" for two traffic-related misdemeanors. The legal case is proceeding very well, although it would be too time-consuming to go into that here. I do not make my childbearing decisions based on insane "what ifs?" If I did, I would never ever become pregnant because what if my husband were to die in an accident? I think I will just continue to leave it in God's hands, since He has blessed me with a family that many wish they had.

As far as my husband not being "there to help now", I am not sure what you think changed recently that he would be here less than before? In fact, he has been home more because he travels less than he used to. You would be amazed how much time men have for their families when they do not watch any TV, don't follow professional sports, and don't have other silly pastimes. You would be surprised how much time parents have with their children when they don't ship them off all day to school to babysit them. The wonderful thing about running your own company is that you can take your kids to work with you. You can come home if your wife just got back from shopping and needs help unloading the van. You can be home during the day and work at the office when the kids are in bed. On and on. My husband spends more time with the kids than any other Dad I know, and I am not talking about "family movie night". We go on outings and special trips more than any other family I know.

As far as Solomon taking on the role of "man of the house" I am not quite sure how you think you know our family so well from a blog? Last I checked, Solomon wasn't bringing home a paycheck, taking out any of the trash, doing any of the yard work, fixing things around the house, and any other "manly" activities you may have had in mind, while my husband does all of the above. Solomon plays with his baby sister, which I think is normal for a brother to do. In fact, he often asks me to hold the baby when I am taking care of her because he loves her and thinks she is the cutest thing.

I installed the flooring myself because I wanted to. My husband would have gladly paid to hire a professional to do it (which would have been cheaper than for him to take time from his business to do it himself). But I thought it would be a fun project to do with the kids, and it was. If I told you I scrapbooked every day for the last two weeks, you wouldn't think there was anything wrong with that. The Bible says "in all labour there is profit: but the talk of the lips tendeth only to penury."

"God intended for the mother to stay at home an raise the children and did not really leave it up to her personal preferences"

You make a lot of these really strong pronouncements about God's will and his intentions. But isn't it remarkably hubristic to think you *know* these things about God, when, I assure you, many people (Christians and otherwise) believe much different things about God.

What makes your view better than opposing views? Is it a feeling you have? A direct pipeline to God? The Bible? An empirical view of human nature? The first and second I find highly suspect, since at least some of the people who hold opposing views probably claim the same. The third and fourth might give you better grounds, but I suspect you still are not a very good authority, in comparison to all the theologians and people who've spent their whole lives carefully studying such issues--most of whom would disagree with you assured pronouncements.

Why do you think you're qualified to tell the rest of us what God intends and desires?

It is called "The Holy Bible", and you will find definite answers to all of life's questions and issues in it.

2 cents from Europe:

You obviously have no medical education, or any education at all for that matter.
Reading your blog is really a jaw dropping experience, especially for European readers. I really don't understand your nerve to judge and "preach" to people your twisted ideas about family planning, homosexuality and life in general. Get of your high horse sister!
You are a perfect example of what we (Europeans) consider a typical ignorant, uneducated, cruwel, religious nutjob American.
By the way, English is not my first language.

This comment actually came in a month or so ago, but I had to add it here because it seriously cracked me up. I guess European readers find reading blogs by European authors "jawdropping." Again, I am striving to base all views expressed on my blog on the Bible, which is just so not en vogue in Europe these days. That may explain why they are the whining, socialist, psychotic, drunk mess that they are.

I guess you are what Americans consider a prejudiced European who hates the American way of life, even if it is lived by a fellow European. Hey, I actually had TWO European citizenships.

And yes, I can tell that English is not your first language when I look at how you spelled "cruel." In case you were wondering, English isn't my first language either, it is my third. May I remind you though that the only reason why you learned English was because it is impossible to succeed in today's world without a working knowledge of it? Whereas your mother tongue has no international significance whatsoever, because your country is not important in spite of the "short man syndrome" that all European countries suffer from?

You do know that wikipedia is not a reliable source of information. The information on the site should not be considered cast in stone.

You seem to have a very distorted view of IVF and need to do some more research.

As far as I am concerned you are a naive, hypocrytical, woman with very little understanding of the real world.

There is no sign of God's light in you.

Wow, but your comment is a real beacon of God's light! Wait, are you displaying the hypocrisy you were accusing me of?

Do you know what? You're an idiot. You're a typical American that is blinded by your religious and cultural beliefs. Have you ever stepped out of your little town?! You will never ever understand the African way of living. You can not compare your lovely 3rd world life to the suffering that people go through in Africa. This is more than just a baby things. You are too ignorant to understand. Perhaps it was your blinded upbringing or your jaded brain, but open your eyes, lady. People die here every day from diseases you didn't think existed anymore.

Every other person there is overly Christian. A Christianity that believes things, which is fine, but you don't need to push your beliefs onto other people.

You don't let other people post here because they don't believe what you do?You're as right wing as Hitler. Get out of your bubble.

Are you angry yet? Maybe now you'll start feeling something other than your "g-d".

Here we go again. I get called a stupid American probably once every week. I think people just hate old-fashioned values, which in the past was somewhat synonymous with America (and I wish it still were). True, I become an American citizen about a year ago, but that was hardly what determined my belief system. I was born in East Germany, raised in Hungary until I was eight, and lived in West Germany until I was 21 years old. In between, I also lived in the UK for about 10 months.

I didn't know 3rd world life was lovely, and I didn't know I lived in it. Not sure what "a baby things" is. And I am the one being called ignorant?

Why the fact that "[p]eople die here every day from diseases you didn't think existed anymore" has anything to do with the question of whether or not IVF is right or wrong I am not quite sure, unless they mean that a few dead bodies more or less don't count in the big picture any more.

I like how I am being called Hitler for not allowing others to post on my blog. I wonder if this person would allow me to guest post on their blog for a change. I am all for having and exercising free speech, while they want me to stop talking about the subjects that I take an interest in.

And no, stupid comments never anger me, they only make me laugh, and glad that I am not blinded like most people are.

it's women like you who make women who have c-sections feel as if they have somehow failed in their role as a woman.

having a c-section is nothing to be ashamed of. shame on you.

Ouch, somebody is a little touchy. Maybe her C-sections weren't as fabulous as the rest of the lenghty comment said they were. So let's use logic: because I warn against ****unnecessary**** c-sections, I am making women feel like they failed in their role? Is it part of a woman's role to have a C-section??

Unlike this commenter, I never shamed any women. I told them to get educated about childbirth, which seems only normal enough for any woman to take an interest in . If I told you to watch your kids and keep them safe, would I be shaming everyone whose child has had a tragic accident?


  1. I agree whole heartedly with you,this is your blog and if you want to moderate comments,that is your right.If these folks are so unhappy with what you are saying,they can simply "change the channel",lol:)
    You have opened my eyes to a few truths since I started reading here.Keep up the good work:)

  2. These comments are hilarious. I laughed so hard at your "because your country is not important in spite of the "short man syndrome" that all European countries suffer from" comment. Is that really what makes certain Europeans hate America? Jealously? How pathetic...

    I don't agree with you a lot of the time, but I'm glad you aren't pressured into silence like these people would like you to be. And for Pete's sake, they act like someone's forcing them to read your blog against their will. Run along, folks.

  3. Mrs Zsuzsanna, I am not American. Not yet. We are working on it. Immigration makes us wait three years from the date of my permanent residency to become a citizen. I grew up in a country that hates America. I grew up hearing awful things about America. And when I left to marry an American, people treated me, and still treat me, like a traitor. Some in my own family. I was told if I married an American and moved to America they would no longer speak to me. And they haven't.

    In my opinion, you are far from a "stupid" American. In fact I think you are well educated about LIFE. I also think that my mother country is overly predjudiced and needs to get over it. MOST of the American people I've met have been wonderful. You get your losers in every country, America doesn't seem to have any more of them than the next country, and you certainly aren't one of them.

    Even in the times that I don't agree with you, I love how your blog makes people, including me, think. I don't tend to feel the need to make a comment every time I disagree. I might once in a while if I think the conversation will be beneficial. I don't see why others feel the need to make such "strong" comments on the blog of a stranger on the internet when they disagree.

  4. These comments are quite hysterical...thanks for the laugh...if I were you, Zsuszanna, I would take these comments with a grain of salt...these are just all angry women with voids in their personal lives and so they vent their deficiencies out on women like you...they're jealous...and a reminder...IT'S A BLOG FOR PETE'S the comments are PERSONAL from Zsuszanna don't have to read the blog...if it bothers you that bad, why are you wasting your time reading her blog let alone commenting?...that's because you're all women!...and women are known to be quite vicious and vocal toward other women who have what they don't...time to take a look in the mirror, ladies, and ask a simple question...why do her comments bother you so much?...because none of this is about's all about YOU!...LOL...have a great day!

  5. "Again, I am striving to base all views expressed on my blog on the Bible, which is just so not en vogue in Europe these days. That may explain why they are the whining, socialist, psychotic, drunk mess that they are."

    I love it have summed it up.

  6. If I don't like a blog, I don't read it, and I sure don't spend my time making comments on a blog I dont even like. Makes me wonder why others would feel it to be appropriate, and expect their comment to be published :?

    But I like your blog, and I like the way you write. So I leave comments to let you know I like it :)

    Thank You Zsuzsanna!


  7. For goodness sake! What is it with people? I had a c section that was medically necessary to save both mine and my daughters life. Given a choice, I wouldn't have gone that route, I wanted a nice uncomplicated labour and delivery thank you. I haven't been offended by any of your posts or comments about c sections. Maybe people should get a life, if they don't like it click the red x in the top right hand corner. That's what it's there for.

  8. Oh my goodness, this is horrible! I cannot believe that people say such terrible things about you. And that first person really is one to talk about feminism, since feminists usually preach about choice, and it is your choice to be a full time mom, which requires you to be on call 24/7!

    The hypocrisy of some people is truly amazing. Keep on being who you are, and just realize that many of your blog readers love what you write!

    God bless,

  9. These are soooo funny. Talk about ignorant people. I love how they call you the names that they are behaving like :) And yeah, You DONT have to read her blog!!!!!!!!! Thank you for sharing these..... such entertainment!!!!

  10. Something I have never understood: Why ppl like that read a blog like this??? Don't get it.

  11. It's actually kind of funny.

    I personally don't agree with everything you say, and I don't think you're asking that of me anyway. But when I feel the most "irritated" (not quite the word I was going for here, but it will suffice for now) is when you have said something that pricks my conscience. When that happens, I try to listen to what God wants me to hear, and I find that more often than not, something you have said has led me deeper into my relationship with God. That is wonderful!

    Then there are the times when I just get annoyed at you solely because I am jealous. I wish I was able to accomplish more in a day. I don't prioritize well. And when I read about all you have gotten done, I admit, I am jealous. But in a way that makes me want to do better, not in a way that makes me want to knock you down.

  12. I know some people think these comments are funny, etc, but I can see why you wouldnt put them up on a regular basis.

    I think we throw the word hypocrite out too easily in this day and age, someone who makes a mistake is not a hypocrite but a person who pretends to be something they are not is a hypocrite. I find Pastor Anderson's wife to be far from a hypocrite and is just stating what she believes and how she lives with no apologies. Some of the things I don't necessarily agree 100% with but I respect her for her convictions and respect her for how strong she is.

  13. Dude, we couldn't be more different or more opposite in thought, in politics, in almost everything... but those comments were HILARIOUS. Don't let the haters do anything other than amuse you. Rational disagreement is different, but probably your personal blog is not the forum for it. :)

  14. It's pretty clear that these people commenting on your blog haven't read very much of it, or else they would know that you weren't born in the USA, that you have traveled extensively, and that you have a lot of experience in the real world and are very knowledgeable about all sorts of topics, etc. In any case, keep on blogging, and keep your sense of humour. :)

  15. Hey, I just saw address and my church is in the zip code 85282 also! You probably know my church called The Door on Broadway and Rural. :)

  16. This just cracks me up also...mainly for the fact that everyone is putting you down for all these things YOU preach at THEM, and for what things you say TO them, and how much YOU offend THEM...yet THEYYYYY are the ones who FREELY and WILLINGLY come to and read YOUR blog! LoL! Some people :) I love it. Keep it coming :) You aren't pushing anything on anyone, they choose to read it!

  17. Do not lose heart. The apostle Paul, and our LORD, had flamers and trolls, false accusers, immitators and gestapo around them all the time.

  18. My comment is not specifically in reply to the topic of this post, but directly in relation to one of the comments, well and the tone of the comments in general.

    You are so sure of yourself and your beliefs in Christianity. Has it ever occurred to you that maybe you're interpreting something wrong? Or focusing on the wrong things? The Bible may say that about judging. But The Bible also says things like eating shelfish is unclean, etc. Instead of focusing on the verses regarding judging others, perhaps one (myself included) could spend a little more time trying to emulate Jesus and how he acted and treated people.

    John 8 would be a good place to start.

  19. pastor Steve or Mrs anderson, I need to contact Pastor regarding his tazer, I am doing a documentary and was wondeering if I could have his footage, or the 2nd tazer incident from start to finish, youtube he only has the tazer part, I need the part where Pastor is exercising his rights etc, he has the whole 30 min video of his first encounter but not this one, i would appreciate it alot and would help my film as well

    God bless you sister and brother


  20. I like you blog just fine.

    You are writing about what YOU are interested in.
    Some will find it interesting, some will find it comforting, and some will find it boring.

    In the end it's your blog, and the standard you need live up to is the standard that you are happy with!

  21. You are so right in your biblically based thinking but why even give the naysayers an ounce of your time?

  22. This is your ranting "$2,000 a night hotel room" person. Firstly, thank you for posting my comment. I didn't think you would. Secondly, I stand corrected on your travel experience. I will concede that some of my ranting was harsh. My apologies to you and your readers. I got carried away. But I do stand behind much of what I wrote. Aside from my ranting.....what truly scares me is your husband. I've heard his outbursts of anger on several online videos and I've listened to his "preaching". His anger level is very high. I really am afraid that he will "break" one day and you and your children will be at the receiving end of his rage. I really feel something terrible is going to happen to you and your children, at his hands. I truly, truly, hope I am WRONG. Goodspeed to you and your family.

  23. Dear anonymous "$2,000 a night hotel room" person,

    thank you for your concern, I really do appreciate it. And I am surprised and impressed that you not only realized you were a little off, but actually wrote to say so.

    Let me assure you, though, that my husband is not a violent person whatsoever. He has never lifted a finger against me. Most crimes like the ones you describe are committed under the influence of alcohol and/or drugs, neither of which my husband has ever consumed. Does he get angry? Yes. But is that wrong? No, not always. In fact, the sermon from last Sunday dealt with that exact subject. The Bible commands us to "be ye angry, and sin not". Jesus is recorded many times to have been angry, even enraged, such as when he threw over the tables of moneychangers in the temple and chased them out with a whip that he had made just for that purpose.

    My guess is that you are probably not someone who believes the Bible literally, so just because the Bible says that getting angry is not always wrong doesn't mean that you agree with that.

    Please rest assured that my husband is a very mellow, easygoing and funloving person when he is not preaching.

  24. Hi Zsuzsanna,
    This is a comment to those who think your husband is going to"break" LOL. I think you might be safe with him because... (Matt 21:12, John 2;15)
    Jesus was also one that had outburst of anger, John chapter 8,Verse 23 He told them that They were from beneath! That they were not going to heaven, and that they were of their father...the devil, .....It was the other side that were DANGEROUS...The other side were the ones who
    'SNAPPED" They KILLED an INNOCENT man GOD himself no less! John 8 verse 37 "Ye seek to kill me" people who had a problem with the truth being proclaimed didnt not then or now have the word...He said my word hath no place in you! (contined on next comment it wont let me write anymore here)

  25. Please post the scripture reference(s) that says a husband is to control his wife. Thank you.

  26. Scripture that says (in your words) "a husband is to control his wife":

    Ephesians 5:22-24 Wives, SUBMIT yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the HEAD of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

    If you care to read on in your bible it goes on to say how husbands should treat their wives. (even calling us the weaker vessel!)
    Submitting means to yield oneself to the power or authority of another. When you have a wonderful husband who loves you as Christ loves the church than it is quite easy to submit to him! And makes life a whole lot easier and enjoyable! :)

  27. All I know is, I wish I had run across some of this information about a year ago. I "had" to have a c section because, I believe the Doctors exact word were "your pelvis is tilted at an odd angle." My son didn't "drop" either like most babies do. When he was born he weighed 9 pounds and six ounces. He was huge.

  28. Ephesians 5:23,24 King James Bible
    Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

  29. Matthew 23 ,Same thing look particularly verse 33"Ye serpents" ye generation of vipers,
    how can ye escape the damnation of hell?" Reverently that doesnt sound like the sweet,

    gushy and "loving Jesus todays sick christians who are influenced by the world make him
    out to be. Priase the Lord for people like Brother Anderson who will BE ANGRY and sin not!!!
    !Eph.4:26 (To the rest of you that want to run this family into the ground....Matt 23 :38
    is for you! I will quote since you probably can't find your Bible....if you even own one...)

    "Behold, your house is left unto you desolate.....Verse 37 thou that killest the prophets,
    and stonest them which are sent unto thee!! this was the rest of my last comment.

  30. Can I get some tips from you on how to piss off Europeans? Because few things make me more happy than tweaking the whiskers of the most arrogant elitist schmucks on the planet!

    Keep up the good work!

  31. I just found your blog by accident. I find the topics covered quite interesting and the opinions on each topic well formed and intelligent. I'm surprised that anyone would take offense to this positive, uplifting blog on family life. I happen to think this blog is great and I'll keep coming back for more. Many blessings to you and your family!


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