Monday, May 11, 2009

She's having a baby...

... What will she need?

playpen?


diaper bag?


stroller?


toys?


diapers?


clothes?


mittens?


only the best foods?


cereal?


nutritious, organic snacks?


teddy crackers?


alphabet grahams to teach the ABCs?


professional portraits?


health insurance?



Am I the only one who thinks some people mistake their animals for children? Or worse yet, substitute having the one for the other? Last week, as I was shopping for a Mother's Day card for my mother-in-law, I came across a card that was from cat to owner. I thought it was a joke or a hoax, but it had its own category, "cat to owner", right next to other categories such as "grandkids to grandma", "baby to mommy", etc. I was left wondering who fills out the card. The owner her/himself? Or the spouse of the owner, much like a dad would help his non-writing child write a card for mom?

What is the point of diet foods for pets? Couldn't they just be fed less? How about nail polish for dogs/cats? Sling-type carriers for toting your pooch around? Does anyone with children have the time, interest, or money to treat their animal like that? Did childless people in the past get as obsessed with pets, or did they find more "normal" outlets such as painting, cooking, or (get this) socializing with other humans?

I wonder how many people the world over had a dinner tonight that was as wholesome as this?




"Capture the moment forever"? "Unconditional love"? For an ANIMAL? I guess one would have to have that in order to be able to stomach changing a dirty diaper on a dog?!?

Some people think we are weird for wanting to have many more children. Yet those who would criticize us the most are likely to have more pets in their lifetime than we will have children. Pets whom they spoil more than we our children. Pets who use up as much or more time, money, love, and resources. Only difference is, the animal will one day die and cease to exist, while our children have eternal, never-dying souls who will share eternity with us.

Just my thoughts...

Edited to add:

I don't think there's anything wrong with having pets. I'm not even saying it's wrong to push them around in a stroller or get their nails done. I was just wondering why anybody would want to do so.

In fact, we do have a dog. She lives outside only and serves as a watchdog. The kids like playing with her, too. We take care of her, but she is definitely not going to appear in family portraits anytime soon.

Edited to add:

The following is a comment I received on this post. I am adding it here rather than publishing it as a comment. This is so ridiculous that I have to think it was just a joke.


ME has left a new comment on your post "She's having a baby...":

"I don't think there's anything wrong with having pets. I'm not even saying it's wrong to push them around in a stroller or get their nails done. I was just wondering why anybody would want to do so."

A lot of people have pets to feel fulfilled, to give themselves a purpose, to have something to dress up and play with that loves them - the same reasons a lot of people (particularly bad parents) have children. But dog owners AREN'T harming anyone by having and loving their dogs for selfish, self-fulfilling reasons. A woman who wants to have a baby so she can have a doll to dress up, so she can always feel loved, so she can "save" her marriage, so she can feel validated because something loves and needs her? How is THAT good for a child?


"I wonder how many people the world over had a dinner tonight that was as wholesome as this?"

I buy my dog good dog food and sometimes cook her pork and carrots and apples and wild rice. I don't think that choosing to feed my dog well warrants your looking down on me - millions of people around the world are birthing kids they can't afford to feed - how does taking good care of my dog make other people's lack of responsibilty MY fault?

My dog is always overjoyed to see me, never resents me (never feels guilty for resenting me), can go potty outside, and is always happy to go to the park but never throws a tantrum when we don't. I can leave her alone at home, can trust her not to get into things or make messes. She waits patiently if I'm cooking meat and if I give her a little bite she thinks it's the coolest thing ever. She licks my face when I'm sad, lets me hold her close late at night, and when she thinks I'm asleep she quietly slips out of my arms and curls up in her own bed. She is pure sweetness and all she ever has for me is love.

So I buy her fancy food. I snuggle her. She likes the balls that squeak, so I buy them even if they do cost $4. I leave work in the middle of the day to come home and take her out. I make her liver popsicles and bathe her in rose-scented shampoo. If she's asleep on the fluffed up comforter right near my pillow, sometimes I look at her, so sweet and barely snoring, and instead of moving her, I just curl up beside her.

And then one afternoon in February, she jumps the fence. I get a call at work that she's escaped and hurry home. I move through the neighborhood with my charge on my back (I am a nanny - which, after 7 years of being around other people's families and children, may be why I prefer dogs to kids), holding a leash, squeaking a ball, calling out, "Dolce! Pup-py!" and flagging down the UPS man. Even though you don't allow yourself to wonder what if, the question bubbles inside of you, making you nauseous, numbing you to the cold wind, to the way your thighs burn as you tear up the hill with a 30 pound hump-back.

A truck slows, the window opens and driver says no, he hasn't seen a white dog, 27.2 pounds, with a heart-shaped nose and an affinity for beet juice and lotion. You refuse to think that you might find her cracked like an egg on the slick frying pan asphalt, red spilling from her body, life sizzling away, because. Because, what then?

The truck pulls away, and suddenly, there she is. Standing across the street, half-hidden by a shrub, looking at you. You yell her name. Yell it again. Yell it until her cocked head straightens with recognition, relief. The way you feel, when you're kneeling on the curb and watching as her tail wiggles her across the street and into your arms. It's a feeling you'd go to hell for. Murder for, steal for, leave lovers for, endure a hundred rainy winters for.

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  1. Regarding diet food: it's the same for people as it is for animals. It's not necessarily about the amount you eat, rather the quality of what you eat. Just eating less does not really constitute a diet, it's about eating healthy.

    I have a daughter, and I have always had pets until my daughter was born and we learned she was allergic to them. We obviously chose to keep my daughter and find new homes for the pets. :) When I had pets, yes, I always bought the best foods for them. It's like this--if I fed my cat Meow Mix or some other cheap food like that, it would be like feeding someone junk food all the time and never a quality meal. I wanted my cat to be healthy, therefore she got healthy food. Same went for the snacks. I never cared what shape they were or anything like that, just that they were healthy and not like "junk food."

    I never had pet insurance, but I can understand why people do get it. Just like one illness could financially devastate your family, it could so the same to a family of a pet. Killing a pet just because its sick is not the answer.

    I'm curious how you think a pet will ever take more time, money, love, or resources than a child would...

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  2. Don't forget pet spas. If your dog or cat is a little stressed bring it to a pet spa for a little pampering. Not sure why your dog is chewing? (could it be because it's a dog?) Wondering why your dog pees on the floor? Then bring your dog to a doggy shrink and he/she will (for a price, a very large price) talk to your pet and tell you why they're so upset.

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  3. Haha, I know what you mean! I am a major dog lover and "mom" to a rascally little canine. He does have insurance, but only because it saves us tons of money, too many toys, a nice collar, bed, blankets, etc...however there are some things at which I draw the line - cards and "presents" being one of them. It just doesn't make any sense. I honestly know someone whose pet dog has yearly birthdays and all the neighbors and friends with dogs bring their dogs and gifts and they have a dog birthday cake...the whole shebang.

    And no...I don't have any kids...YET! :)

    xoxo Caroline

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  4. LOL I LOVE it! This is so funny--and so sad and so true!

    Babies don't even NEED most of that stuff, much less pets! It is really sad. It's along the same lines as PETA activists being pro-choice.

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  5. I agree that some people "go overboard" for their pet(s), and that in some cases to the point of obsession or other mental illness. These people lose perspective and priority of pet animal(s). I'm a cat fan, yet only own one at a time. I think beyond buying portraits and toys for a pet is probably where I would draw the line. I realize that pets resemble humans or people only to a certain point and that there are certain holes, needs and roles that pets should never fill. I agree that diapers, greeting cards, shrinks, and other such "personal" things for pets is absurd and weird but is marketed to and bought by the above market nevertheless. I can't understand having an iguana, snake or something even more exotic and scary as a pet, but "to each his own." You make a few good points about having many pets vs. many children. Having more than a few children isn't weird; it's just not as popular (no pun intended) in these times and in our current culture as it was decades or centuries ago or in other countries and cultures. Although I also agree that since I've been a parent I haven't had or spent much money or time on a pet, I believe that pets can sometimes be good for children and families to have.

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  6. I do think pets are replacing our children. I went to our Credit Union once, and I had our cute little Yorkshire Terriers with us. I was shocked when they didn't offer my car full of children a sucker, but rather the Credit Union offered my dogs doggy treat!

    I was disgusted, to say the least!

    Blessings,
    Christy

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  7. haha, sorry....I found these pictures hilarious. Only in the States hey... Ive never seen half this stuff for sale here in South Africa and I know more than a few families would happily eat that pet food for dinner themselves.

    Ps: We have 2 dogs for security. We love them, feed them and make sure they are comfortable but we dont forget that they are there for our protection.Not to look pretty on our couch.

    Hehehe..im still laughing at this really..incredible! :-)

    Thanks
    Sarah

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  8. I agree that some pet owners go overboard and that some folks will defend the rights of an animal before giving compassion to other human beings. I'm guessing, but it may be easier for some to love an animal than a human being; human being relationships are more complicated. If so, then all the more reason they need to learn about God's love for them.

    I've never heard of any studies that indicate that those with more pets have fewer children. Is that your opinion or is there a study you've read or heard about?

    I have a friend who has multiple pets and enjoys them. She and her husband can't have children but in their case the pets are not "substitute" children (and they certainly don't buy things like clothes and strollers for them); they just really enjoy animals. If God would have given them children, they would have been great parents to them, too.

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  9. Hey Zsuzsanna,
    Do you speak Hungarian?
    I'm from Hungary. I've been watching an interesting video on YouTube, I found your church and I just realized that the pastor's wife's name is Hungarian... :)

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  10. Krisztián,

    yes, I am half Hungarian, and grew up there for the first eight years of my life. It was my first language.

    After that, my mother moved to Germany, so German is my second language.

    I still speak Hungarian, but not as well as I would like to. I understand it much better than I myself speak it.

    Glad to know you found my blog. Hope you like my husband's sermons. Are you a Christian?

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  11. Yes, I'm Christian, I go to a Baptist Church. I travel a lot and it's just funny that I found Hungarians all over the world.
    I have a Christian band back in Hungary, you can check it out: :) (I play the piano and composing the songs)
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IcwBoaTjKlc

    God bless!

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  12. I know some people who are so bad about it that they call their pets their "babies" and treat them like children. Disgusting.

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  13. WOW! Now I have heard it all!! It is insane to say the least! This made me and my husband laugh.
    Jessica

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  14. While I do love my kitties, I don't think I'd get health insurance for them O_o

    I think my sister replaces cats with children, but in her defense, she isn't married.

    Nice pics, though. I lol'd.

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  15. It is true that sometimes people value animals more than humans. For example, look at what PETA does. I cannot believe that they support abortion while they want to work hard to save the lives of animals.

    On another subject, I'd really love to see a picture of your dog. I am just curious about what your dog looks like. I know that one of the cons of having a dog is that your children will step in dog poop sometimes. :(

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  16. "I don't think there's anything wrong with having pets. I'm not even saying it's wrong to push them around in a stroller or get their nails done. I was just wondering why anybody would want to do so."

    A lot of people have pets to feel fulfilled, to give themselves a purpose, to have something to dress up and play with that loves them - the same reasons a lot of people (particularly bad parents) have children. But dog owners AREN'T harming anyone by having and loving their dogs for selfish, self-fulfilling reasons. A woman who wants to have a baby so she can have a doll to dress up, so she can always feel loved, so she can "save" her marriage, so she can feel validated because something loves and needs her? How is THAT good for a child?


    "I wonder how many people the world over had a dinner tonight that was as wholesome as this?"

    I buy my dog good dog food and sometimes cook her pork and carrots and apples and wild rice. I don't think that choosing to feed my dog well warrants your looking down on me - millions of people around the world are birthing kids they can't afford to feed - how does taking good care of my dog make other people's lack of responsibilty MY fault?

    My dog is always overjoyed to see me, never resents me (never feels guilty for resenting me), can go potty outside, and is always happy to go to the park but never throws a tantrum when we don't. I can leave her alone at home, can trust her not to get into things or make messes. She waits patiently if I'm cooking meat and if I give her a little bite she thinks it's the coolest thing ever. She licks my face when I'm sad, lets me hold her close late at night, and when she thinks I'm asleep she quietly slips out of my arms and curls up in her own bed. She is pure sweetness and all she ever has for me is love.

    So I buy her fancy food. I snuggle her. She likes the balls that squeak, so I buy them even if they do cost $4. I leave work in the middle of the day to come home and take her out. I make her liver popsicles and bathe her in rose-scented shampoo. If she's asleep on the fluffed up comforter right near my pillow, sometimes I look at her, so sweet and barely snoring, and instead of moving her, I just curl up beside her.

    And then one afternoon in February, she jumps the fence. I get a call at work that she's escaped and hurry home. I move through the neighborhood with my charge on my back (I am a nanny - which, after 7 years of being around other people's families and children, may be why I prefer dogs to kids), holding a leash, squeaking a ball, calling out, "Dolce! Pup-py!" and flagging down the UPS man. Even though you don't allow yourself to wonder what if, the question bubbles inside of you, making you nauseous, numbing you to the cold wind, to the way your thighs burn as you tear up the hill with a 30 pound hump-back.

    A truck slows, the window opens and driver says no, he hasn't seen a white dog, 27.2 pounds, with a heart-shaped nose and an affinity for beet juice and lotion. You refuse to think that you might find her cracked like an egg on the slick frying pan asphalt, red spilling from her body, life sizzling away, because. Because, what then?

    The truck pulls away, and suddenly, there she is. Standing across the street, half-hidden by a shrub, looking at you. You yell her name. Yell it again. Yell it until her cocked head straightens with recognition, relief. The way you feel, when you're kneeling on the curb and watching as her tail wiggles her across the street and into your arms. It's a feeling you'd go to hell for. Murder for, steal for, leave lovers for, endure a hundred rainy winters for.

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  17. You cannot rationally compare the impact of a pet to that of a child. Please be conscious of the impacts of overpopulation. I will pray for you.

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  18. 1. I left that comment (and it was not a joke).

    2. I'm 27, single, and after being a nanny for seven years I've seen the impact children have on your life - how they require so much attention/money/time and how they, while rewarding, also put a lot of stress on a marriage (10% of couples divorce within a year of having their first child (I heard that on Focus on the Family radio, which I'm sure you're fond of)). I will never have a child single, and I'd like to have one when I'm married, but I don't see that happening any time in the next few years. So... what is wrong with my choosing to have and love a dog?

    3. Having a dog is relatively inexpensive. I spend probably about $30 a month on my dog (dog food, squeaky balls, liver treats).
    4. Several years ago, when I was a nanny for a 2 year old, my boyfriend and I took my charge to the zoo. It was fun and the little boy had a ball, but at the end of the day my boyfriend turned and looked at me. We barely spoke to each other all day Everything we said was about the kid - don't let him go over there, I'm going to take him potty, etc . It was like diving right into the middle of parenthood, and it was heavy. Your lives begin to revolve around your kids - and that's not necessarily a criticism, it's just the way it is.

    I'm not sure if I want that, if I will want it. I know that I don't want it right now. With a dog I can have a career, can have full uninterrupted conversations with whomever, can love and nurture something without being married and without spending hundreds of dollars a month. When you're a dog owner, maybe it isn't as fulfilling as being a parent is. But right now, I'm a good dog owner, love having a dog, and my dog makes me happy. I can't say any of that would be true were I to have a child instead.

    4. You still never answer what is so wrong with that? Aside from your comment that you don't think it's "normal." What IS normal? These days, normal is broken homes, normal is welfare and unemployment and step parents and abusive uncles. I prefer my dog to your children; you prefer the opposite. Do you have to criticize me for taking good care of another living being? Why can't we just simply say we have different preferences and values, and leave it at that?

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  19. I'm a little shocked by those. Those of who responsibly keep our pets, train them properly so that they are good dogs and do not bother our neighbors - yet choose not to have children, are not bad people. I'm child free myself, coming from a family of five children.

    I have 3 dogs, a cat, and 4 ferrets - and my life is damn well better for it. All of them live indoors. They have toys to keep them occupied so they don't chew furniture. They eat good quality food so they don't fall ill. You wouldn't feed your kids McDonald's everyday, would you? That is what feeding cheap, poorly made dog food is like.

    I spend my time volunteering with my local SPCA and helping people in my community learn to better manage their pets - no one was ever worse the wear for loving a dog.

    You love your god, your children, and your life. I think you're a little absurd having as many children as you do, spoiling them with toys, taking them out on vacations - but that's your choice, and something you are well within your right to do.

    Most of your controversial posts I have remained quiet on - I don't share many of your views, and that's okay - we can have different opinions. But when it comes down to things we love - that's pretty harsh.

    What about people who owe their lives to dogs? The people who are found in snow storms, or when the towers were destroyed? The OKC bombing a few years ago? Search and rescue dogs, police dogs, dogs that stop intruders, or dogs that guard children or sheep?

    Loving your pets and treating them with respect and like members of the family isn't wrong.

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  20. Dear Me,

    I think you missed where I clearly stated that I didn't think doing any of the things you do for your dog are wrong. I said I didn't understand why anyone would want to. I know you said neither of us should criticize the other, but you seemed to imply that I have too many children, and that I have them for the wrong reasons. Of course, you do not have children yet, so I understand that you have no idea what it is like to feel love for your child (not one that you nanny, no matter how close you may be to them). Maybe one day you will have children and understand my viewpoint more.

    I agree that you should not have a child until after marriage. I agree that watching other people's kids will make you want to never have kids, it has the same effect on me. I never babysit for anyone ever, nor do I allow my children to be babysat by others. Actually, I do not like Focus on the Family, but tend to believe that the statistic you mentioned is true. If anything, probably more people divorce after having children. Having a child can bring out the best, but also the worst in people, so I can see that leading to a lot of divorces.

    I am glad you like your dog and get fulfillment out of it, as well as out of your career and all the other benefits that come with having no children. All I am saying is that once you have a child, all these things will suddenly become completely insignificant. There is no greater joy than having children who love God.

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  21. Someone who doesn't bond with their animals will never understand those that do. People get pets for different reasons. Some people get them for watchdogs, and some people get them as an addition to the family. I love my pup. I make him special treats from scratch, take him for walks every day, and he sleeps right next to me. It's not really that weird, is it? He shows me love, affection, and companionship, which I return. Would you rather me, an unwed 21 year old student and part time employee, go out and have a baby so that I can get similar gratification? I think not. Perhaps pet lovers aren't abnormal, maybe they're just smart...

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  22. Ever thought maybe there is a chance that people love their pets, whats so wrong with that?? Maybe some people don't like socializing with other people so much, its called social anxiety, and having a pet can help cure this.

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  23. I totally get what your saying. I had a friend who had a miscarriage at 4 months. I was looking for a card to send her. You know they didn't have ONE card for that but they had plenty of cards for "sorry for the loss of your pet". The stores sell what people want...enough said.

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  24. My, there are certainly a lot of judgmental people here. Is there some reason to be ridiculing people who love their animals that I am not aware of? Are we harming you in some way?

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  25. Well, so far all I've seen is single/unwed chicks defending pet lovers and the gratification you get from sleeping with a dog. No offense to you ladies, but I wouldn't want to date or marry a girl who slept in the same bed with a dog. When I go to the natural food store to buy veggies I always see people with tons of dog hair plastered to their fleece jacket or pants. I always wondered how they get so much dog hair on themselves. I guess it's because they share the same bed with an animal.

    Anyways.... the planet is not overpopulated with humans. The fear mongering environmentalists have predicted doom-and-gloom overpopulation for decades now (ever since Paul Ehrlich wrote the Population Bomb). Did you know that if you put the Earth's 6 billion humans into Australia that every single person would get 3.5 acres to himself? In Australia. That would leave the rest of the world totally vacant. Also, how can you guys criticize people who have "too many" kids when you are contributing to global warming by having dogs that sit around and do nothing? I hope that those homeade treats you make don't give your dog gas, because their respiratory functions alone are pushing you over your carbon footprint allotment.

    On a serious note, though, I would never get health insurance for an animal (unless that animal brought me income). $500, that's it. I don't care what the problem is, I am not paying more than $500 to fix it. If it cost more than $500 to fix the dog, then I'm putting Unlucky down.

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  26. Well, so far all I've seen is single/unwed chicks defending pet lovers and the gratification you get from sleeping with a dog. No offense to you ladies, but I wouldn't want to date or marry a girl who slept in the same bed with a dog. When I go to the natural food store to buy veggies I always see people with tons of dog hair plastered to their fleece jacket or pants. I always wondered how they get so much dog hair on themselves. I guess it's because they share the same bed with an animal.

    Anyways.... the planet is not overpopulated with humans. The fear mongering environmentalists have predicted doom-and-gloom overpopulation for decades now (ever since Paul Ehrlich wrote the Population Bomb). Did you know that if you put the Earth's 6 billion humans into Australia that every single person would get 3.5 acres to himself? In Australia. That would leave the rest of the world totally vacant. Also, how can you guys criticize people who have "too many" kids when you are contributing to global warming by having dogs that sit around and do nothing? I hope that those homeade treats you make don't give your dog gas, because their respiratory functions alone are pushing you over your carbon footprint allotment.

    On a serious note, though, I would never get health insurance for an animal (unless that animal brought me income). $500, that's it. I don't care what the problem is, I am not paying more than $500 to fix it. If it cost more than $500 to fix the dog, then I'm putting Unlucky down.

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  27. Dear Ron Paul Republican,

    THANK YOU! I couldn't agree with you more on all these points. Thanks also for the laughs on this beautiful morning.

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  28. The point isn't whether there is plenty of room for all the people, the point is that population growth is not a condition that can be sustained. We Americans are spoiled, we don't have to worry about finding food (or the facsimiles of food we Americans now eat) for our children on a daily basis, so we don't readily realize the immorality of having more than two children per couple. Not only due to pollution, but due to the fact that many other species are becoming extinct due to loss of habitat. Yes, I suspect some religious people believe humans have a right to kill every other living being for the sake of humans, but I doubt seriously God agrees.

    Is the problem that people value and love their pets, or is the problem that we have become such a nation of consumers that big businesses have decided to see if there is a market for specialty pet products?

    People have a right to spend their money however they choose. The providing of goods and services for pets ultimately creates jobs for humans if nothing more. I see ADOPTING a shelter pet and giving it a loving home a much more altruistic and moral act than having a child. We kill thousands and thousand of dogs and cats each year in this country because of irresponsible owners.

    I think what happened to your husband was absolutely wrong and I hope your family comes out of that incident in the best possible outcome. But, on this point, I think you have it all wrong. There is nothing wrong with humans recognizing that other animals have value and treating them as such, in fact there is a lot right with it.

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  29. Wow that is so true! My best friend treats her dog like a baby and pampers him to death. She has no children but it annoys me how it doesn't really even seem to matter to her because she thinks of the dog as her child. So strange...I will never understand it. I love dogs, but not in place of a human being!

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  30. Dear RonPaulRepublican,

    No offense, but what makes you think that they would want to marry you?

    If you don't want to sleep in a bed with an animal, good for you. Nobody's stopping you, so what's the problem?

    There's room enough in the world for all of us- those who want kids complete with all the troubles and joys they bring, those who want pets complete with all the troubles and joys they bring, and those who want both or neither.

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  31. You are all very harsh toward people who cannot have children and still try to have meaning in their lives. I am sorry that someone has so much hatred in their heart :(

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  32. Wow, when I first started reading this post, I thought it was going to be about what things are really necessary to buy for your baby! I can't believe people would buy all that junk for their pets!!!

    I also think it's ridiculous that some people think it's wrong for us to have more children just because people in Africa are starving. The reason Africa is in such a bad condition is because they rejected God long ago, and turned to Voodoo and other Satanic garbage. The reason Americans are doing so well is because of the Christians of the past, but those blessings are going to run out. God won't keep blessing America with the way our nation is throwing Him out.

    Having more children, as long as they're taken care of and taught from the Bible, is a good thing.

    I'm hoping that we have at LEAST 4 children... take THAT environmentalists! :D

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  33. My husband and i see our dogs as members of the family. They live in the house with us, though they don't sleep in the bed ( one is a great dane.. we wouldn't all fit lol) or sleep on the furniture. We are childless, leaving it up to God to decide if and when we will be blessed with children. I feed my dogs well, not only because a healthy diet leads to lower vet costs, but because rocky, our mix saved my life during a seizure related to medication and if someone saved your life you certainly would throw them a special meal now and then right? They entertain me more than the filthily tv. Its win win as far as i can tell.. If god blesses us with kids, i will continue to have dogs ( unless one has an allergy) they help teach kids about love, respect, gentleness, responsibility, and in the end loss. I also bake them biscuits on occasion, it's cheaper to make them at home lol. My husband works nights as a 911 dispatcher (10 hours) so I'm here alone and the dogs help me feel safe.. even if they do follow me around like.. well little lost puppy dogs.

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  34. You tagged your post "controversial" Obviously you are seeking controversy.

    I wonder if you give your dog shots. Or do you think that shots are just for people?

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  35. Anonymous,

    yes, we do give our dog shots. But no, I don't think shots are for people, so we do not vaccinate any of our children.

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  36. My husband and I have 3 dogs that we treat somewhat like children. We have been married for 15 years and are Christians. Unfortunately, we are unable to have children - not for lack of trying. Our next step would be IVF, but we do not have the money to go through several rounds. Due to some history of abuse in hubby's background, and some health problems, we are not in a place where we would be able to pursue adoption, so we have rescued two dogs and have built a life. We do get out and socialize with other adults - we are very active in church and both of us work in offices. We have several friends and we spend time with them at least once a week.

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